Does he really love me ?

We went from this great flame that’s I’ve never felt before to him pushing me away when all I want is affection I don’t think he’s cheating I just don’t know what I did wrong I’m trying everything and me calling him bothers him and he doesn’t text me back as quick or like he used to do at all . I get small answers . Am I just not lovable ? He says he loves me but I don’t feel it and I feel sick bc my gut is telling me that it’s over and I’ve lost but I don’t want to lose I want to win him back but everything I do just seems to push him away even more . I think I’m about to just give up and take the hurt but I really don’t want to he’s my Buzz forever . My spaceman that hung the stars and the moon for me …… I LOVE HIM !!!!!

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Maybe he’s going through something… he’s got to at least open up enough to understand what’s bothering him to know what steps you should take. It’s not fair to you that he has you all confused now. It’s like considered love bombing. Try and see if he will open up. If he doesn’t move along it’s not fair to you. Even if you rubbed him the wrong way or did something wrong you deserve to know that to at least correct your mistakes.

I’ve asked him and all he’s told me is that his baby momma doesn’t want me around her kids and it’s only bc she wants to be back with him and he knows that and I do too … she’s using his kids to get in our relationship but how do you not want to fight he told me if she says that he has to pick between the kids and me then he’s going to break up with me ….. we live together and have been for six months now but why am I not good enough to fight for she just going to do this again when he gets in another relationship if we break up …….

im sorry that this is happening to you. I don’t know you guys situation 100% but to me that doesn’t sound right. Yk most men who’s dealing with bitter baby momma’s like that usually put their foot down when dating. If she doesn’t want her kids around you? Ok cool stay away from them. Allow him to make arrangements with his children outside of you guys personal time. If you stay with him and his baby momma keeps his kids away and like a weakling he’s stops dating you you didn’t belong in that situation in the first place. That’s what she is gonna do with every relationship he tries to have because she’s bitter and still in love. He also might still have a little care in his heart for her because why would he just break up with you like what you guys had for the last 6 months mean nothing to him. He needs to put her in her place or it won’t work and you’ll have to exclude yourself from that equation for the sake of your sanity. ❤️‍🩹

I’m not like him tho I know me and I wish I could just shut my feelings off and walk away but I feel sick to the point I could actually throw up with the thought of losing him for good

I know im just like you. When you love you love hard and sometimes we end up falling for individuals who really don’t deserve it. He probably really loves you however doesn’t have the backbone to put his baby momma in her place. So he might find himself going through this all the time. I’m sure if he wanted to be with her he would be. Obviously he doesn’t want to be with her but she controls him because she uses their children against him. I feel bad for you guys he needs to put his foot down seriously.

I agree but I cant make him and I feel like if I push then I might push him away even more

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do