In laws favouring other grandson

Ignore and rise above it. Encourage their relationship with your son but you don’t have to like them. It’s harsh, I’m in a similar position, but making an issue of it will let them know they’ve won by annoying you. Rise above it

I agree with above comment. Also when your son is old enough he will realize what they are doing, he will probably be hurt by it, but you explain why they are like that. It will be on your in laws to explain to their grandchild why they acted like petty children.

i think they’re probably half right, they may feel like because youve set that boundary that they don’t understand that if they then start doing things like that youll get mad at that too, and they wont have the same relationship with your son as they do the others because of the boundaries so its just something youre gonna have to ignore x

If this continues, it could cause some serious trauma and behavioural issues for your son. Yes, you could ignore it and keep things civil, or you could tell them straight up that if this continues, you have no choice but to discontinue visits. Put your child and his mental health first, he does not need to be getting the backlash from your MIL. Not fair on him and also not fair on you. Your partner should not be enabling this either, it can be extremely damaging for kids. If this is genuinely them trying to follow your boundaries the way that they think is appropriate, maybe just have a quiet word and ask what’s going on and what they think you mean when you set your boundaries. They could well just be doing what they think is right, but it does sound like they are purposefully doing this from the way you’ve worded it…

As much as I want to agree with the above comments I cannot, if this continues it can cause resentment and cause ur child there mental health, he may grow up feeling like he’s not enough or grow up to resent the ones getting more attention, I would encourage u to sit down and talk to them and discontinue visits if this continues, the petty non sense isn’t worth it, ur the parent and ur allowed to set boundaries regarding ur child.

my “MIL” favors her other grandchildren too (my bf has two other kids with someone else). my daughter is 3 months old and has a birth injury that’s getting better thank god but i’ve put boundaries on holding her and not leaving her with anyone. like the other day we were with her in her hotel room (she was visiting for a funeral and she lives in Maryland and us Florida) and she wanted her son and I to drop off her car at a charging station (she expects him to do everything for her like he’s her husband which i find weird as fuck) and i got my baby in her car seat and she’s like “you know you could leave her here with me” and i politely said “no thank you.” what’s the point?? we were gonna head to our hotel right after so it doesn’t make sense to leave her in the room with her. plus, i don’t trust her whatsoever. if she started crying then what? she’d want to pick her up. and if she hindered her progress that we’ve worked SO hard for ever since she was born, I’d honestly hate her … cont

and blame her for it. and where does that get us? i’d never let my daughter be around her meaning my boyfriend would have to deal with never being around his mother 💁🏼‍♀️. OH and she also bought my boyfriend and his two other kids plane tickets up there for thanksgiving but not me and my daughter. when i was bitching she said “well you’ll have your other kids so you’ll be fine” to her son. like EXCUSE ME? it’s her first thanksgiving you asshole! and you’re instigating him not being with his 3 month old daughter for her first thanksgiving. what’s next? Christmas?? she needs to understand she is NOT his immediate family anymore. she is now considered extended family. once you have kids, your mom is not a priority whether some people thinks so or not. my mom knows her place so why can’t she?