I feel such depth of sadness. I spend each day dreading the nights with my toddler and 6 week old and each night I'm dreading the following day.

My toddler is a nightmare and being totally honest I don't like her at the moment. Constant whinging and my 6 week old too. Everyone tells me it will be easier in a couple of years but what do I do until then? Endure this awful life?

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I have 3 boys and my last one had such bad colic xx it will get easier . Is there anyone u can ask to help from time to time fx . I remember feeling this way I cried a lot 😢 hopefully this group will help we are to support each other zz

Hi honestly when your in it it feels like it's the worst time. I remember 1st lockdown, pregnancy with a 1 and 3 year old. Having worked full time and then be sent home I hated my life at that point. But then I chose to find magic in a day, I made a bubble bath and the kids ate ice lolly in it, we found new walks, I tried new activities. I made an action plan for the day and new routines. All I can say is stay strong find yourself in the kids world. Mine was creativity, action plans and a solid routine and we are now on the other side xxx

You're not on your own. I have a 3 year old who's always been cheeky but since having my baby has become naughty& I get it because it is such a massive adjustment but pair that with trying to look after a newborn it's definitely not easy! Just know that it's not forever& as my health visitor said when I broke down on her the other day, you need to remember to be kind to yourself too.

Do you have any support around you so you can atleast have 5 minutes to just focus on something you want to do rather need to do? It might help looking forward to something instead of dreading what's coming.

It may also be worth reaching out to your HV or GP about how you're feeling to see if there is any other support available.

Feel free to message me if you need a chat or a rant, I've definitely felt how you feel and I'll probably have more of those days to come! X

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My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

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The main sign he shows is hand leading. He does not point at all, and instead will take my hand and lead me anywhere he wants to go,
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He laughs, makes eye contact, mostly responds to his name, but doesn’t do any other gestures.

Normal toddler behavior or signs of ASD? Let me know your thoughts!