MIL is upset with me.

Let her be upset. You are protecting your child (your DEFENSELESS BABY) from the very real possibility of getting sick. Yes, it's a pretty small possibility. But seriously, why risk it? There will be plenty of time for kisses later, when baby has a stronger immune system. My daughter got RSV right before she turned two; it was basically a cold that made her tired and cranky for a few days. Had she gotten it as a NEWBORN, it could have killed her. The wait time for a baby's immune system to start getting stronger really is not all that long, in the grand scheme of things. And it's so worth the wait.

If she can't respect your wishes, tell her that you will not be bringing your child around her until she's ready to respect them. She can get mad all she wants. Wouldn't she rather be mad for a while than live with the guilt of making her grandchild, who she supposedly loves, seriously ill?

Wow she shouldn’t be kissing your baby AT ALL especially during RSV and flu season. I don’t allow anyone to kiss my babies except me and their dad. You’re not overreacting, if she can’t respect your boundaries she can’t hold the baby.

I think especially if your child is a newborn, this is not an unreasonable request. An illness at such a young age, even something minor, can have serious ramifications. Especially this time of year where we're coming into flu season and just general plague times, I wouldn't want anyone kissing my 3-year-old even. I think some of these older generations forgot that ear infections and colds used to literally kill people, like there was a reason you had nine siblings Ethel, some of them were going to make it.

I despise the entitlement so much with mils

A lot of grandparents don’t understand that kids can get sick in a snap of a finger, me and my sister n law got pregnant about the same time but my daughter was born first and we made it our absolute rule to every single person to not kiss her at all ! Not her clothes not her hands feet nada and my MIL did not like that and it honestly took her a few times of her trying to and actually kissing her and us bitching at her for her to get it through her head but when our niece was born they let her kiss her feet but once she was getting bigger and putting them in her mouth my SIL tried to tell my MIL not to kiss her no more and it was all bad my MIL did not want to go by it and that is exactly why we went straight off the bat cuz later they don’t listen ! But let your MIL be upset it ain’t her baby and she sure as heck ain’t gunna care for him if he gets sick! I hope things get better mama

my five week old baby had RSV and was in the hospital. It’s not a joke and people who think it is are so ignorant. It drives me crazy I know exactly how you feel.

I think until you see a child struggling to breathe, just absolutely miserable and suffering like that, some people just don't get it. It's absolutely heartbreaking to feel so helpless and watch your child in that condition, I wish people would consider the consequences more thoroughly.

People do that all the time. Shaming, criticizing, name calling, and making it seem like a mom is doing to much especially first time moms. There is something very special, unique, and important about a mother’s intuition. I encourage you to mom bravely, continuing to name your boundaries and stand your ground with them when it comes to taking care of your child. and have the courage to let them. Let them judge you and criticize you and call you names. Someone’s inability to respect you and your parenting wishes is not your bad it’s theirs. let them get upset, let it be their problem, dont make that your problem by being concerned with approval -developing self doubt and broken confidence with your mothers intuition and parenting wishes. You are the chosen mother for YOUR child, and you get to mother your way, so own that and don’t let anyone make you insecure about it. Stand your ground. As long as you are gentle, kind, and respectful when setting a boundary, you are not the problem.

our little girl had rsv a couple of weeks ago. Watching her little self struggle filled me with a rage that I've never experienced before because I knew exactly who was to blame for. Yes, they were ignorant. I'm sorry you and your family went through that with your baby being so so small :(

And tell your husband that most GOOD mothers worry “to much” and we all get to do
It our way with our own intuition about our own child. shame he’s teaming up with his family instead of being one unit with you, this is a common thing though. Keep open communication with your husband and I hope that gets better. Don’t let family come between you and your husband or your parenting wishes.

i’m sorry you had to experience that too! it is something i never wish to see again. even after my Lo getting it they still want to kiss the toddler and such… like what is it going to take for people these days!

I cannot imagine how awful and scary that was!! Especially at 1 month old, people need to respect your boundaries for your children always.

I have a cousin who spent three days in the hospital when he was two months old because they thought he had contracted HSV. It didn't end up being that, and I forget what it actually was (and he's fine now)...but it was still a crapton of medical bills and extra stress that could have all been avoided if everyone would have just listened to his parents when they said not to kiss him. It blows my mind that people are actually willing to put their own selfish wants and ego in front of the well-being of an innocent baby.

I absolutely HATE when seeing MIL as she always makes digs about not being allowed to kiss my baby boy.
She took the piss last week and kissed him on his cheeks!!!! In front of me.
I’m full of nothing but hatred for her right now. No respect at all.

Let her be. As above until they see what it can do they’ll try pushing you and your boundaries. Don’t let up. It’s not her choice to make, it’s yours until it’s your LOs choice.

My LB was prem and I still don’t allow it (he’s 13 months now) until he can say he wants a kiss or cuddle they don’t get to force him. And he can say if he says no that’s final, I want none of this ‘but grandparent wants a kiss, don’t you love grandparent’ loving and bonding with a baby or child can be done in so many other ways than pushing yourself onto them.

My baby just had RSV and it was so scary. I’ve been speaking up more about my boundaries with bf’s family. His brothers dad almost stuck a piece of pizza in my 8 month old’s mouth after she just got over being sick and throwing up every night. That got shut down fast.

I’m so sorry but let her be upset. She’s a grown up. People can be upset. People get over it.

It’s your baby. I’m not letting anyone kiss my baby.