Confession

When I gave birth to my baby I stayed in the hospital for a few nights… on the first night I fell asleep with her in my arms and woke up and jolted. I ended up dropping her on the floor. I immediately picked up the baby who was crying relentlessly and called the nurse. I told the nurse I hit her head rather than the truth because i was scared and I panicked. The nurse calmed me down and checked the baby and she said she looked ok and mentioned how in the morning the paediatrician will do a full check.

My husband came in the morning and I told him the same thing. Again I was too scared of being judged as a new mother. The paediatrician checked her and said all ok. My baby is now 8 months old however I still cannot forget what I did.

My baby is healthy, growing and very active - I have nothing to worry about however i still worry. What if I damaged her? Am I a good mother? It still eats me up inside.. I keep thinking about what if something happened then or what if I’ve damaged her and I won’t know until she’s older?

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Please don't let that guilt get you. You just pushed out a whole ass human being from your body...not a single one of us is perfect, but especially under that level of paona nd exhaustion, things happen. If she were to have neurological issues, you absolutely would have seen them by now. Unless she had some major contusions and swelling which they would have noticed almost immediately, I am quite sure she is fine. Accidents happen, please don't beat yourself up for something so innocent. There are some awful parents out there who intentionally hurt their children, that is absolutely not you. I'm sorry that happened.

I dropped my son off an extra tall hotel bed head first when he was a week old 😅😅 it happens. Try not to let it happen of course, but it does happen. That does not make you a bad parent/person. You made sure she was ok and that's all you can do. You have to forgive yourself ❤️

I tripped walking up a curb and launched my son at 3-4 months old across the road in his car seat i felt awful he just giggled at me I was way more hurt than him and he was absolutely fine. We all do it at some point! I was told by everyone to see it as a right of passage for all exhausted mum's to eventually do it at some point you just got it out the way nice and early! Doesn't make you or any of us bad parents for doing it especially in your circumstances! You're an amazing mama! ❤️

My friend is a midwife and said it’s SUPER common! She’s had mums sitting on the edge of the bed fall asleep with baby and both fall off.

Aww don’t worry! These things happen!! Giving birth is exhausting.
If it makes you feel any better, when I was a baby, I fell down the steps. I’m fine, though! 🤣

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