4 & half year old sleep

My son is awake every night in the early hours and either struggles to go back to sleep or just doesn’t. We’ve tried early bedtime, late bedtime nothing seems to work. When he’s awake he wants us to sit with him which can be long. It’s every night and it’s just destroying us. My one year old is also up but easier to resettle between them they’re putting us into an early grave!!! Anyone else up every night? 5 years of disturbed sleep and I’ve just had enough 😞😵‍💫

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Hi Laura, we are in the same boat, I can count on one hand the amount of times our 4 year old has slept through. It’s so rare that we assume she must be poorly if she does! 🤦🏻‍♀️
Like you we have tried everything , she won’t go to sleep on her own and needs us there for comfort so we have to lie with her until she falls asleep. We now have a 3 month old so we are definitely aging with the lack of sleep 🤣. People said that it would get better when she goes to school but we haven’t seen that as yet! So definitely feel your pain. We are so worried that we will get a non sleeper again with our second too! Sending solidarity as we are right there with you, if you find a solution send it my way 😂😂😴😴

Thank u for responding!! It’s SO hard isn’t it. I’m considering going down the GP route it just isn’t sustainable we’re so exhausted 😩 I feel for u. N equally so jealous of the parents with natural born sleepers they don’t know how lucky they r!! Sleep is just everything. My one year old settles fine initially but ends up in our bed most nights as it’s just easier. We were also told it’ll change with school starting but if anything it’s worse! Seems never ending. Dreading tonight and whatever fun it brings in the early hours 😣 x

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.