9 week old baby won't stay asleep in crib

Hi I'm really struggling with my baby's sleep. She happily sleeps on my partner and I, and can do so for extended periods. However when we put her down at night, she rarely stays down for more than 20 minutes. She will start stirring and will kick her legs up / flail her arms. She is swaddled in a Love to Dream sleeping bag (she doesn't like the traditional "arms down" swaddles). We regularly use white noise too, which gets her off to sleep. We've tried using a small bassinet and a next to me crib but have the same issue. We have a little moses basket in the living room for daytime naps and she just wakes up in that one straight away (though I don't usually swaddle her during the day so nor sure if that's part of the problem).

It's not that we can't put her down at all at night, it's just that she won't stay asleep. Does anyone have any advice?

I know advice online often says put down when drowsy, not asleep but she regularly falls asleep on me during feeds.

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Have you tried white noise or anything? We had the same problem with our LO so ended up getting a Ewan the Sheep on recommendation and he's out like an absolute light now (albeit still v noisy!)

@Soph hi, thanks. Yes we use white noise machines / playlists but doesn't help her to stay asleep or settle herself back to sleep unfortunately.

@Emma ah bless! Does she sleep well in the car? We've also got a Rockit Zed as our LO loves the vibrations so that might've helped (started using both at the same time lol)

Yeah, she sleeps in the car. The bassinet that we used had a built-in vibration setting but she just didn't like it so we stopped switching it on.

We recently started putting a water bottle in our LO next2me before his last feed, it warms up his sleep bag and the mattress/sheet so he doesn't feel the temperature difference as much
It seems to be working xx

I told my sister in law that our baby didn’t like the arms down swaddle in the beginning too and she laughed at me and said no babies like them but they need them. I would try the arms down swaddle again , we have been a big fan of the Ollie swaddle. When the baby starts looking tired we swaddle her tight, pop the pacifier in, turn the sound machine up and it usually puts her out after a few minutes.

What about putting a hot water bottle in the cot first to warm it. We do it now thanks to a mum on here and my 8 weeks old goes down in the cot and sleeps well but god she is loud xx

Okay, thanks ladies, will give those couple of things a go. Hopefully they'll help her stay asleep.

Definitely warm the bed. Sounds ridiculous but really works.

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