Formula fed 2 month old missed a night feed. Please help. So mad at my partner for missing his feed

So my partner just seems to selfishly want our 2 month old to sleep through the night, that way we get more sleep. LO ate last time at 8.30 in the evening. I was very tired and asked my partner to do the next feed. Waking up and realising he missed it . Usually the LO eats about midnight or at 1 and then again in 4h or max 5h. This time he went from 8.30 pm to 3 am. I am so mad at my partner for missing the feed and allowing 2 month old without any food for more than 6h. Please help. Is it normal ? Or is it me who is wrong? So desperate 😢

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Did your LO sleep through? I think it’s fine tbh unless the baby woke for a feed and didn’t get one. They’ll wake when their hungry just enjoy the sleep xx

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Do not worry yourself.
If your LO is a good weight, then it is fine if they miss a feed.
It means they are happy, full and content.
You are doing a great job!

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My little girl is 8 weeks old and has a feed at 9 then sleeps till about 5. We asked the health visitor if this was okay and should we wake her and because she’s gaining weight health visitor said it was absolutely fine and not to wake her xx

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My 10 week old sleeps from 10pm till 5:30/6am without a feed. We learnt that we was waking him up for the feed but in all fairness, he should wake us up. This is what was recommended to us at night ā˜ŗļø to be honest he did wake us up at 2 last night for a feed so it’s something

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My little girl is 10 and a half weeks and she goes 6/7 hours in the night without a feed. Your baby will wake up if they are that hungry so don't stress yourself plus you can make up for feeds during the day

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My daughter is 7 weeks old and is breastfed and sleep 10-6 every night (not a brag my son was a half hour waker) and has since literally day one.
If they are hungry they will wake šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļøso yes your in the wrong 😬

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My little one sleeps though his 8pm 9pm bottle the has one at 23ish when we go to bed. He will then sleep through to 4ish and has another bottle. He does make up for it in the day and had two bottles with in a couple of hours today was 815 and 1015.

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11 weeks here, he sleeps 10 to 6/7 most nights, has done for a few weeks please dont worry, a normal healthy baby who is gaining weight will wake up when they need to be fed, get yourself some well-deserved rest!

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You don’t need to wake them if they are above birth weight. Would class that gap as a serious win!!! I’m praying for it to happen to me lol xx

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