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My husband has been easily irritated with me for any little thing. Last night he just fussed at me for almost and hour over random things. I happen to look thru his phone and he has been constantly texting and ex of his that his family wanted him to marry but he choose me. This isn't even the first time I've went thru his phone and seen that he's been texting this person. He said he loves me and her and doesn't want to lose this ex... I'm confused and sad and I don't know what to do. We have a 2 year old and a 4 1/2 month old. Sometimes I just want to pack us up and leave. When he talks to this ex it makes me feel like I'm not enough. Just need some advice.

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No one can tell you what to do you have to make that decision yourself but you’re being completely disrespected. Never mind not being enough for him he’s not enough FOR YOU! You’ve given him two children and married him and yet he’s still messaging his ex and saying he loves you both?! What a load of bollocks, you deserve to be someone’s one and only. If this were your friend or sister being treated like this what would you tell them? He should have lost this ex before you came on the scene in the first place. Do you want your children growing up seeing their dad treat their mum like this? You all deserve better than him. If you can pack up and go I think you should. ❤️

Please listen to Chloe.. everything i was going to type out she literally already said

My ex husband was in love with a girl he “let get away” our entire 7 years of marriage and these random messages to her lasted our entire relationship the fights lasted our entire relationship. Me feeling like a second option and him resenting me because I was the second option lasted our entire relationship. Don’t be someone’s second choice it never works. I left in November 2019 and he was meeting up with her 2 weeks after I left. It legit took him getting played by her after she strung him along for years (even the years prior to us getting together) to finally move on from her and her Bs, he’s now happy with someone else and so am I. Go find happiness.

I'm sorry that's happening to you. It sounds like he's keeping his options open in a situation where he should not have other options. I don't see how that can go on without it making you both unhappy together. I hope he can let go or stop and figure out why he won't let go. "Baby season" can be a hard time for couples to not turn their frustrations on each other. That sounds like maybe what he's doing? "Oh no this is all so hard... maybe the grass is greener..."

He is not enough for you. You don't deserve this. You deserve a partner who chooses you every day. I know this is easier said than done, but you truly deserve better and so do your kids.

You are a beautiful woman, you deserve better than this. Easier said then done… but if you have the means to get out of this relationship I think you should!
Maybe he is just waiting for you to make the decision so he doesn’t look bad. I’m sorry you are going through this. 😢

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