Anti-Dad sometimes

Our daughter has been very anti dad lately. Her and I went to visit family for 10 days with out dad so I guess I understand. But since then she is just soooo attached to me and I really need her to go back to liking being with daddy. When she stays with only her dad she’s great but as soon as I’m around as well she’s very pissy lol. Please help 😵‍💫

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How old is she? My toddler has been like this basically since she turned one.

Suddenly she can’t stand being around him when I’m in the room. Or she hates it when he plays with her while she’s in my arms. It’s terrible because she just screams her fkn head off.

18 months. She often does the same. We can’t even touch or she gets soooo mad for no reason🫠 and I know they get along just fine when I’m not around. It just makes me so sad sometimes lol

Mines 17 months. It’s really sad! Especially because she adored him when she was a baby. She’s okay with us touching thank goodness. I’m hoping it’s just age and separation anxiety. My girl has been a stage 5 clinger from day one.

(The funny thing is that when he’s out of town she misses him to badly. Like girl quit screaming then)

After my post and after her nap today she was sooo much better with him than the past few days y’all. Definitely hoping it’s the phase 🫶🏽🫶🏽

She’s allowed to be anti dad right now. She’ll switch to anti mom at some point! It’s fine that kids do this!

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..