Why’s my mum so stingy with food?

Growing up now I know why I always binge ate ITS BECAUSE I WAS NEVER FED ADEQUATE ANOUNT PORTIONS (Bare in mind we have never struggled and my dad makes enough money for his whole family) now I’m married with kids and whenever I stay at my mum she gives me breakfast & lunch Breakfast 9am just toast, tea and cake Lunch is around 4pm where it’s literally a 6 year olds portion. Like she would cook so many dishes, curry, rice, pasta, every dish you can think of but the plate of food is just tiny ? LCan someone give me reasons as to why? As growing up we were never poor, neither was her family. And my dad always goes above and beyond to buy all the food we need. So when she cooks / serves food there’s never space for seconds and even the first plate of food is usually never filling

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Has she ever struggled with eating disorders? This can be the reason why the portions are small. Also if you’re for US I’ve noticed that people here eat giant portions and think that this amount is normal. Could it be that she’s just offering you a normal sized healthy portion? Honestly toast and tea sounds like some diet but then ruined by cake lol. Also a lot of people skip breakfast (myself included) so I don’t see a problem with toast and tea as long as the next meals are nutritious. Might want to dig into history of breakfast to see how it was marked as “the most important meal of the day” just to make you buy the items that they wanted you to buy”.

What happens when you ask for more?

@Boryana not in us but UK. Example of tiny portion. 3 / 4 tiny grilled wings with like a portion of rice that’ll suffice for a 6 year old. That’s it. It’s not the matter of eating breakfast or not , it’s the fact where she’s in the kitcthen all day and night cooking stuff for my dad, family etc but when it comes to plating up she gives me and my siblings tiny portions

@Veronica I don’t because I don’t wanna cause drama as I only stay during once a while so my kids can see grandma so I don’t wanna make it into an issue. I just stay hungry

I mean why don’t you put food in your plate on your own instead of her serving it? Also where I come from in Europe it’s normal to serve a small portion and if you’re still hungry to come back for seconds instead of overfilling your plate and not eating half and then you waste so much food that can’t go back in the pot. I wouldn’t really have a conversation with her about it but I would definitely start serving myself and if she asks why say “to help”.

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