Why’s my mum so stingy with food?

Growing up now I know why I always binge ate ITS BECAUSE I WAS NEVER FED ADEQUATE ANOUNT PORTIONS

(Bare in mind we have never struggled and my dad makes enough money for his whole family)

now I’m married with kids and whenever I stay at my mum she gives me breakfast & lunch

Breakfast 9am just toast, tea and cake

Lunch is around 4pm where it’s literally a 6 year olds portion. Like she would cook so many dishes, curry, rice, pasta, every dish you can think of but the plate of food is just tiny ?

LCan someone give me reasons as to why? As growing up we were never poor, neither was her family. And my dad always goes above and beyond to buy all the food we need. So when she cooks / serves food there’s never space for seconds and even the first plate of food is usually never filling

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

Has she ever struggled with eating disorders? This can be the reason why the portions are small.
Also if you’re for US I’ve noticed that people here eat giant portions and think that this amount is normal. Could it be that she’s just offering you a normal sized healthy portion?
Honestly toast and tea sounds like some diet but then ruined by cake lol. Also a lot of people skip breakfast (myself included) so I don’t see a problem with toast and tea as long as the next meals are nutritious.
Might want to dig into history of breakfast to see how it was marked as “the most important meal of the day” just to make you buy the items that they wanted you to buy”.

What happens when you ask for more?

not in us but UK. Example of tiny portion. 3 / 4 tiny grilled wings with like a portion of rice that’ll suffice for a 6 year old. That’s it. It’s not the matter of eating breakfast or not , it’s the fact where she’s in the kitcthen all day and night cooking stuff for my dad, family etc but when it comes to plating up she gives me and my siblings tiny portions

I don’t because I don’t wanna cause drama as I only stay during once a while so my kids can see grandma so I don’t wanna make it into an issue. I just stay hungry

I mean why don’t you put food in your plate on your own instead of her serving it? Also where I come from in Europe it’s normal to serve a small portion and if you’re still hungry to come back for seconds instead of overfilling your plate and not eating half and then you waste so much food that can’t go back in the pot. I wouldn’t really have a conversation with her about it but I would definitely start serving myself and if she asks why say “to help”.

in our community

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Just need a vent

My MIL currently lives with us; as well as my SIL, her husband, and her 2 severely autistic children. My boyfriend has been redoing a house for their family to move into while he has been on paternity leave. All that is left is the electric and plumbing brought up to code. Which he doesn’t know how to do but my MIL family does for a living. He goes back to work starting Monday. My MIL decided that instead of helping with the electric and calling her family to come out and start on it, that she was going to go visit her oldest son and family that live 2 hours away. Which would have been fine if they hadn’t just gotten over the flu. Literally the day she goes to visit, she messaged my SIL and says that 2 of the kids are sick again. So she ends up staying up there for a week until the kids “get over it”. She’s been back since Tuesday and started saying yesterday that she doesn’t feel good. After trying multiple times to hold my 2 month old daughter, standing over me while I’m trying to take care of my daughter when crying, and coughing near my daughter. At 4am this morning when I woke up for a night feed, I felt like crap. My stomach has been hurting so bad that it made me feel nauseous. And I’ve (tmi) diarrhea all day so far. If she did bring something in, I now have to try and not give it to my newborn and take care of her sick at the same time. I’m just beyond pissed that she didn’t think of the baby before going there and coming back after being around sick kids. She also didn’t even try to quarantine herself from us and the baby.