Sex and Relationships with Railey Molinario

I have to beg my husband for sex

Anyone else in the same boat?
He's is not affectionate, not romantic, not passionate in any way and its really starting to drain me.
I thrive on physical touch and he won't give that to me. I've talked to him about it loads and nothing seems to change.

We've been together 8 years and have 2 kids.

What can I do 😞 at this stage I feel like I'm getting closer to cheating and I really don't want to do that. I've started having dreams/fantasies about other people and I've never felt that way until recently, I guess I can only take so much of feeling rejected and unwanted/unloved.

Had anyone else been in the same boat? Do you know the reasons behind it? Did it get better?

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Partner contribution

Feeling very frustrated with my partner at the moment but not sure if I’m being selfish. He has gone back to work but is fully remote so works from home everyday. He sleeps in the spare room and has done since the moment we brought baby home (he is now 8 weeks old). He takes the baby one night over the weekend and I go into the spare room for one undisturbed nights sleep. I get that he is working, so wouldn’t be doing any weekday night feeds, but even after work he doesn’t help very much. I ask him to help me and he’s fine when the baby isn’t fussing but as soon as he starts crying he hands him back to me stating he “cannot do this”. I feel like I get no break. He watches me run up and down the stairs, making bottles tidying the house and does nothing to help, not even a thank you. I feel like I want to go back to work sooner rather than later to even the playing field as he said that when I start working it would be 50/50. Just wondering how everyone else is doing things with a working partner?

Since I gave birth, I don’t see a reason to stay in my relationship.

Since I’ve had my baby I feel like having a partner is so unnecessary to me. Don’t get me wrong I love my partner and he is amazing but there’s so many things he does that frustrate me and I’m starting to realise that i don’t really need a man because he’s already fulfilled the role of giving me a child.

Today it hit me more than ever. So my partner has been up at 3am for work and he’s been working super hard and lifting all day so fair enough . Anyway he was too tired to drive me to the corner shop which is 5 minutes away. Now I don’t drive (I’m learning) so me and our 5 month old son had to walk half an hour to the shop and half an hour back to get food so I could cook dinner.

Baring in mind we live in the middle of nowhere so I had to walk down country lanes which is dangerous as cars zoom past and there is no footpath. It was also 6:30pm so it was getting dark and it was raining.

By the time we were walking back it was pitch black and the rain had turned into a storm and my umbrella broke and I was soaking wet trying to cover my baby who was attached to me via a baby carrier. I called up my man and told him to pick us up straight away as our baby was getting wet.

Now I’m sat here like why tf should I put up with this foolishness. I live with my auntie so I have a roof over my head, me and my family are close and they support me in every which way. I don’t rely on my partner financially so why am I in a relationship. I love him but that’s pretty much the only reason I’m with him when you look at it. My son is my whole heart and he’s my reason to live so why am I with someone who I have to clean up after and cook for. I mean everything that comes with having a boyfriend/husband I get from my friends and family, minus sex obviously but I have a vibrator for that lmao.

I’m just thinking that the Cons out weigh the pros here. I also solo parent 98% of the time and do all the feeds during the night so what’s the benefit here.

Baby accidentally had cheese

(Baby is 8 months) not had any cows milk since 8 weeks.
I bought some spaghetti bolognese pouches and didn’t realise they had 2% cheddar cheese. I told my partner do not serve those as they contain cheese. Specifically told him before I went out to my appointment this afternoon. I come home and he’s feeding her the pouch! I was absolutely mortified to say the least as I literally had just mentioned it before I went out. She has had half a pouch. Has anyone else done this by accident??? It says online to look out for reactions but she’s due to go bed soon and she was having this at about 6:30pm.

I think I need a break....

Hey everyone!

Context:

Little bubba is 7 weeks old tomorrow, partner has been back at work 5 weeks, my family live 3hrs away and my in-laws are close by but FIL is away in the week and MIL still works plus has 2 big dogs

Question:
When are we leaving our babies with someone for an hour or 2 break? My baby is 7 weeks old tomorrow and aside from sleep and shower, genuinely the longest we've spent apart is 10 mins (we went on a walk with our neighbours and the kids and me and the mum went on a extra little walk leaving kids and the dads at the part Inc the baby).
I'm really wanting some time to myself, my head needs a break but my body genuinely feels like a magnet and I can't leave! I totally trust my husband but sometimes struggle just to lay down upstairs and leave them to it.

I'm combination feeding, offering breast 3-4 times a day

Id love to hear if and when you've left your little one with a trusted person for a break and how it went?

what would you do?

my son’s father and i aren’t together and he is only allowed to see our son for an hour a month (social services are involved, he’s not a good person at all) he also isn’t allowed any unsupervised contact with him until he turns 16.

i don’t receive child maintenance from him and i’m so against him as a person due to his past behaviours and actions that i find it very difficult to communicate with him regarding our son. he messages and calls me constantly but most of it is asking about me- where i am, what i’ve been up to, who i’m with, what my plans are tomorrow etc etc. he doesn’t seem to take much interest in our son.

my social worker has been very clear with me that i am in control and if i don’t want him in the picture that they can make that happen because he isn’t a good person and it truthfully would be easier for my son growing up if he just wasn’t there (he’s 2 months old)

how do i know when to turn around and say i don’t want him involved? because i feel like i’m letting my dislike for him take over

marriage disaster

I’ve been with my husband for about five years on and off, he was my high school sweetheart and we recently got married 3 and a half months ago, 1 week before I had our first baby (my second child, his first). it has been very up and down but I feel mostly a complete disaster since getting married and I have already been contemplating divorce for a full month because he is manipulative, controlling, and gaslights me on an almost daily basis since maybe a month or two before getting married. I don’t want to cut him off but I don’t feel comfortable being married and saying we’re committing our lives to each other knowing I want to leave him and be on my own. I want him to be in both my children’s lives and for us to stay on good (enough) terms but I don’t know how to go about that, any advice ?