As a SAHM if you could afford it would you put your kid in part time daycare?

To start my husband got a new job and is on call 24/7 365 days a year. It’s an intense job with no guarantee time off or schedule. If he is home, he’s most likely sleeping.
We are considering doing two day a week daycare. She’s just turning two and not potty trained so pre school is out of the question. I also live in a state where parents have to pay the cost of preschool. So two day a week care would financially be getting us used to paying for preschool is the way I look at it.

Thoughts? I feel mom guilt for using daycare to get things done around the house instead of using it because I’m at work.

We are lossing our regular support people/ family due to them moving across the country. Which has both my husband and I worried.

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She’s Almost 2– the socialization will be great for her! You need time for yourself mama, doesn’t matter if you’re working. I’m sure things need done around the house and it sounds like your husband will be unable to help. I would do it.

I’m not a SAHM, but I highly recommend daycare. It gives your toddler a chance to learn social skills, new skills from watching the other kids, and depending on the center, they may help potty train (ours starts at a year and a half).

All parents need a bit of a break/ time to get things done. Most of our supports live an hour or more away and across the country. We decided that since daycare is open on MLK day, and hubby and I have the day off, we’re going to keep our baby in daycare that day in order to have a date day since we have only been on 2 dates without baby in the last 10 months. 😅

Absolutely yes. I work full time but even on days when I work from home with my son or days I am off from work and spending time with my son, I can get mentally exhausted. Having time to yourself to recharge is imperative for not just Moms, but everybody.

As a mom and preschool teacher it’s an amazing thing for them! They learn so much and the socialization and everything is so good for them. Look into different programs and see what fits your schedule. Some programs have options so you can do full time, part time, drop in, etc. the school I work at has 2,3,&5 days a week with options from 7am-6pm with 9-12 the regular school hours and the option to drop in for lunch bunch and leave at 1. You can always start small and build up to your financial and comfort level.

I’m a SAHM & my daughter goes to daycare twice a week. I do it to give me some time to get stuff done but most importantly I do it because she truly enjoys it there. But I have been thinking about taking her out. She’s gotten sick so many times since going there it’s starting to feel not worth it just rather keep her home with me.

I've been a sahm for 3.5 yrs and I started getting help once my son was 1 because being a sahm is work and if you have no help then forget it... daycare or a babysitter is essential for your mental health. This isn't a solo job. Feeling guilty is normal but eventually you will see.it as essential so u can bring your best foot forward as a parent. I get help twice a week but when you think about all the hours you put in daily, getting help for a short time is nothing....
Its.the bare minimum

Which state has free daycare?! Also if your paying for it why does it matter the reason why?

I think daycare can be a great option. That’s literally what they’re there for. Nothing to feel guilty about.

Yes it will be great for their socialisation and great for your metal well-being. We all deserve a break. I have 5 children and my 4th child did daycare for just over 2 years before starting school so I could get that little bit of piece of mind.

I would 100% put her in daycare a few days a week. You deserve that time for yourself and she will love being around other people! Win win

If your in Arizona you don't have to pay for preschool if you qualify for this program that's through the Maricopa county office. My daughter went to preschool for free and she goes to a charter school for free. Also Des helps pay child care if you qualify but you have to have a job

There is nothing wrong with sending LO to be watched! Socialization is great, and having a community to lean on is normal! This is no different.

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

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Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

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He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!