Mum guilt - baby fell off bed - hate myself

My baby girl 7 months fell off the bed today and I hate myself. It’s 1000% my fault, i couldn’t catch her in time and it looked so horrible. I hate myself. We are at the hospital and they think she’s okay but we are waiting for the doctor just to be sure.

When hearing stories of babies falling off beds sofas etc I always thought how could this happen and here I am. Split second and the damage is done. I hate myself, I am drowning in self guilt and I know this doesn’t help anyone but I just cannot get over it. It was so preventable!!!

I have all these crazy thoughts in my head about what could have happen etc. and what might still happen. What if she’s not ok? And it’s all because of me! I just can’t. She’s snuggled up to me right now asleep whilst we are wondering hallways up and down and I just don’t deserve her.

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Aw momma. It’s okay. Mistakes happen and you will learn from this experience! Don’t be so hard on yourself. What could have happened did not happen and it seems as your baby girl is okay. Breathe momma. You also do deserve her. She loves you no matter what.

This is apparently the most common accident with babies. My LG fell off my bed when she was around 5/6 months and it happened because I accidently fell asleep and I woke up to her being on the floor crying so imagine the shock 🤯 I felt so awful and I thought I will never forgive myself but as time went on I saw sooo many similar posts and it made me realise that this is so common and mistakes do happen and I was able to accept the fact that it happened. So please don't blame yourself, and forgive yourself because you don't deserve to feel that way, it was a MISTAKE ❤

Thank you!!! Doctor cleared her yesterday and said she seems absolutely fine and she is like her usual self today but I just cannot shake it. There are these terrible cases of babies with delayed symptoms and I’m so worried even though the nurse and the doctor said she is okay. We are seeing an osteopath today as well to make sure there isn’t anything wrong with her neck and movements. I am so scared something will happen to her, she’s my whole world. And I let her fall off 😭 I’m still a wreck.

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