Just me or does anyone else hate ‘baby talk’?!

I have since our little one was born spoken to him like I would a child/adult - I’ve used proper words and when talking to him I use proper sentences.

However, my in laws whenever they see him, talk to him using baby words like “toothey pegs” for teeth or “bye byes” for naps or talk to him in a babyish voice. It drives me insane!

Is it me being over sensitive?! I just want him to learn the correct language formations and words as early as possible without having to relearn things because he thinks his teeth are toothey pegs! We use rhymes in songs or nursery rhymes so he learns rhyming couplets etc.

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I'm so the same!

My husband thinks I'm nuts but I can't stand 'silly' talk.

It's milk and not 'milkies' 🚫

Yes!! Glad I’m not alone 😂😂 it really grates on me!

Some things bother me, toothypegs is one. Pussycat is another, like it's just a cat.
Bye bye I'm ok with as it's repetition like and helps them learn but yeah shit like milkies I don't say.
I do try to fight my battles though, it's mostly my dad who says all the stupid shite and they don't see him much so it doesn't really sink in, so I mostly don't say anything to keep the peace.

Agree, repetition is manageable it's the crap variations of things. My husband was saying these things even before kids 🙈😂

Burgs for Burgers - 😱😱

Repetitions I have no issues with but it’s a nap not bye byes 😫 I haven’t said anything to them as I think it’s not worth it but if I’m asked if he has any toothey pegs I respond with no teeth yet!

I don't say it to others but I tell my husband that I don't like it to hopefully limit the 'silly' talk...I can't not say anything 🙈

It fills in time, so when you talk to them they're hearing you for longer.

Baby talk has repetition, rhyming, and exaggerates phonemes common in the language .. especially the ones a child learns to say first. It gives names that babies can say earlier: Dada becomes daddy become father. Mama becomes mummy becomes mother.

It contrasts similar sounds.

For example, the ending of tooth is indistinct to a beginner. Tooth-ey lengthens and emphasises _th_. Similarly, Toothey Peg gives a contrast of the initial _t_ and _p_ sounds of the adjacent words. Baby learns more about the language than just hearing "tooth".

Speaking correctly to a baby is teaching, but baby-talk is scaffolding.
It is showing them one step ahead of skipping ten steps ahead.

Remember, they babble before they talk. So we talk to them in ways that help them organise their babble.

I understand that but plenty of my friends have talked to their babies without the babyish tones and words and they’ve all grown up to understand the language and speak it very well.

Toothey peg and words that are not what the activity or objects are, to me are irritating. I was bought up without these words and I’ve been just fine ☺️

Thank you for your input though - good to see both sides x

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I never thought I would be that person but I honestly can’t stop myself saying all kinds of stupid words to my little girl 🤣I almost feel as if I’ve forgotten how to speak to adults now

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding