How would u feel if ur partner/ husband got a boner in the delivery room

Is that a bad thing & how would u go about it?

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I think I would be focusing on the discomfort/pain/contraction of the labour than my husband's boner 😂 worse can happen ill ask him to just go get chicken nuggets at maccas and bring some for me

maybe it turned him on seeing his woman create and bring life into this world and just being such a bad ass woman? and he just doesn’t know how to express it but his body is reacting to the experience. that’s the only thing i’d think of you know?

So my partner had a few of his dad mates tell him abour their labour experiences when we were having our LO, and he did mention that quite a few of them had said they had gotten boners while their partners were giving birth.. well over half of the guys he talked to.
I think maybe it may be more common than we realise but not something that is really talked about to women because we associate labour with pain and the feeling of a baby coming out but men with their simple minds think labour pain noises sound similar to sex noises and therefore don't mention it for their own safety (theory has been confirmed by the above mentioned boner getters)

oh I was thinking more of what Cat said😂I didn’t realize the moaning would probably ressemble sex😫

I agree& id like to think that’s exactly what’s gonna happen to my husband as he tends to get hard even not in a sexual manner like if he sees me talking to my bump. So I wanted to know if it’s good or bad in birthing room? Anyway thank u :))

i would laugh honestly 😭😭 that’s such a weird time to be horny but it wouldn’t be a negative thing for me lol

I don’t think that happened for my husband but he did say a couple times afterward that the whole time I was in labor he was just struck by how beautiful I looked. Like something about me was just extra attractive to him, even though I was obviously pretty disheveled. Idk if that would have anything to do with it 🤷‍♀️ (and he’s definitely not the type to just say that if it wasn’t true)

It’s the adrenaline, it can cause involuntary erections. I wouldn’t think too much into it unless he’s given other reasons for you to feel uncomfortable about it x

boner doesn’t always mean horny for men lol. And also they can’t control morning wood does that mean they’re horny?

so true !!!

Wouldn’t have noticed since I was in awful pain but idk why in that very moment it happened.. guys sometimes get hard without being horny as I’ve been told by my bf so idk lol I wouldn’t think to much into it honestly and if it bothers you ask him about it

I was in labour for 33hrs and my husband got one at the most opportune time. I figure that they get erections super often anyway just naturally so chances are if you have a longer labour that they’ll get one.

We had a good laugh at it and it made me lighten up a bit through the pain lol 😂

I would rather him to have an erection than to throw up 🤣🤣

I’ve only had one baby and my epidural only worked on one side while my babies big ass head literally ripped almost the entire length of my vagina leaving me with second degree tears. It was bloody and loud and very scary, if my husband had popped a boner during that time I would be extremely concerned so I really think it depends on how your labor went😂

WEIRD

There's not a snowballs chance in hell I'd even notice and if he dared to bring it to my attention he'd never get one again.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding