Porque no soporto a mi suegra después de haber sido madre? Alguna más le pasa...?

Siempre que la pongo en su trona para hacer un biberón y simplemente para ir al baño para hacer mi necesidades me anda diciendo que eso es abuso y maltrato infantil y ya después de estar escuchando eso 4 meses, después de que la maternidad no se me hizo fácil... Mi mente se lo está creyendo y poco a poco me estoy cayendo al vacío. Convivo con ella...

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Te aconsejo que hables con tu suegra y con todo el amor del mundo le hagas ver que no te gusta

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Ya lo he intentando pero siempre pone pegas y ya no tengo paciencia de hablar con ella

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Si eso no funciona por tu salud mental si tú sientes que eso no es así no te lo lleves personal y que siempre que te diga algo ps que no te importe, porque hay varias opciones y si se puede que ustedes vivan sin ella o que tu pareja hable con ella

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Y si nada funciona, empoderarte y que sus comentarios no te afecten y siempre que te diga algo decirle lo que piensas sin rabia y ya

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Muchas gracias por ayudarme 😊

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Me pasa lo mismo, y abeses es difícil Sobrellevar esas situaciones, porque todo lo que agas para ell@s todo esta mal. Y no se aceptan la nueva actualización con los bebés. Lo que me ha ayudado es que poner límites si no entiende es seguir con firmeza asta que aprenden a que tu eres su madre. Claro que es difícil pero tu eres su mamá. Trata de hablar con ella, quizás te funcione, en mi caso no lo logré. Pero aún soy muy insistente en lo que no me gusta para mi hijo.

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muchas gracias! Si es muy difícil estás situaciones. Creo que ella tampoco me soporta y está un poco encelada...

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Límites. Y si no los quiere respetar, toca empezar a limitar el estar con ella. Yo, por motivos personales, mantengo una relación mínima y de cordialidad con ella, aunque antes no era así. Cuando yo estoy presente, tengo muy claro que no pienso tolerar que la gente me diga cómo hacer las cosas o juzgar como las hago. Ella tuvo su oportunidad cuando fue madre. Ahora nos toca a nosotras. Obviamente quiero que mi suegra y la peque se lleven bien. Una cosa es su relación con la peque y la otra es conmigo. Obviamente si se queda a solas con ella hay unas normas. Al ser una bebé aún no hay una comunicación verbal en la que me pueda contar que han hecho y tal. Pero a la peque le enseñaré los limites que los demás deben respetar conforme aprenda a hablar y tomaré las decisiones que haga falta si se pasan de la raya.

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Te entiendo perfecto....yo con mi primer embarazo la empecé a aborrecer....me empezó a resultar pesada y metementodo...no le hagas ni puto caso...es tu hij@ y tu eres la que mejor sabe lo que necesita tu bebé...y porsupuesto que eso no es abuso ni maltrato infantil...déjale las cosas bien claras...y no dejes que te se suba a la chepa. Habla con tu pareja también y dile lo que sientes y si hace falta que le pare el los pies a su madre

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Deberías hablar con tu pareja y que él le ponga un alto a su madre!! y si no se solucionan las cosas respóndele a sus comentarios

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

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AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

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Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

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