Weaning a fed to sleep 16m

My toddler has always fed to sleep and we co sleep. This has always worked well for us to ensure we both get a good nights sleep. Lately I’ve found she wakes every few hours to feed and it’s been hard on both of us. I’ve also just found out I’m pregnant again so think I need to wean her now before I get too tired and pregnant.

Any tips on how to physically do this? Every time I’ve tried to rock her to sleep instead of feed she goes into full meltdown mood. She’ll just miss the nap I won’t put her on the boob. Every time I have a bit of skin showing she’s suckles it and breathes me as boobs are such a comfort to her. She loves her boobs and it breaks my heart to wean her but I don’t want to risk the health of this baby plus I’m also KNACKERED.

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Do you think she's always been taking a lot of milk from you before sleeping? Just wondering if it's because your milk has changed so although she's getting the comfort, she's not getting full. Could try giving her actual meds lol at start of nap/bed routine then boobing for comfort after?... I appreciate that thought is not actually answering your question. Sorry. Just a thought. You might just have to try sleep training to get her out of your bed but I think that's harder when they're older. We always did it at 6 months and both babies love their cots now.xx

I’d ask your obgyn bc I am not sure if there us a health risk to your baby if you bf. Otherwise no advice here. 18 mos and still bf to sleep. We have lots of other sleep associations - bath, books, saying good night house, but she still needs some boobing. I have read some folks saying gradually pulling away earlier works or the other parent doing the bedtime rituals. I would not recommend sleep training or going cold turkey because it just seems too stressful (if I were asked to sleep in a completely different way than I am used to I would have a hard time too.)

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