Do you take baby/toddler to pub/restaurant?

I've just been to a country pub we've wanted to try with my 15 month old. He goes out to eat maybe once every few weeks. He seemed slightly whiny after waking from his nap, but not as bad as he's been before. Teething probably. We were in a small corner with 3 tables. 2 couples were on the other 2 tables. We were there for 40 mins tops. When we left, my husband was fuming the couple on the table behind me were rolling their eyes and putting their head in their hands, mimicking baby as we left, which I found incredibly childish and ignored. I feel he wasn't as bad as he had been before, as it makes me incredibly anxious taking him to places, especially if there aren't any other kids his age. How do you deal with the judgement from others? I was doing okay until my husband said that when we left. I can't stop overthinking in my head that I should of said something about their petty behaviour!

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I’ve been taking both my kids since they were 3/4 weeks old. Just ignore them, life is too short to care what they’re thinking.
You can always be overly apologetic to make them feel bad..

My little boy was 11 days old when we went for our first family pub meal. He’s 15 months now, & we all still go together whenever we fancy… Children are allowed to take up space, too... 🤷🏻‍♀️ If anyone mocked my baby, they’d absolutely have me to deal with if I’d seen it… Otherwise, what’s done is done… Take your baby out. Enjoy your time with them… They’re only little, once… x

I think people that don’t have kids just don’t understand how kids operate. Before having kids I also though ‘oh why can’t people keep their kids quiet’.
It doesn’t excuse them being childish putting hands on ears.
Ignore them or if you see someone doing it again give them a sarky comment, it doesn’t really matter, kids are kids and they’re allowed to exist. If people want child free spaces they can hire a private room or stay at home.
Nothing for you to worry about x

I take my kids everywhere, I’ve ignored and I’ve also looked at people and said take over for me if your better than me, tends to make them back down and become sheepish. I’ve also had an older lady rip into someone before as I just couldn’t stop my son crying as he was sick, she was a life saver at that point. Kids take up room, people take up room, they’re allowed to live and exist just like anyone else. Ignoring is best but I do like a snarky comment every so often if I feel really annoyed. Enjoy your meals out :)

We’ve been out for dinner a few times. Been out for coffee/lunch a lot too. 9 times out of 10 he’s totally fine but sometimes can have a bit of a winge. Honestly my attitude is if he cries he cries. Especially when he was younger, sometimes kids have a cry or a moan. That’s what they do. People can mind their business 🤷‍♀️

Literally ignore them or I death stare them until they look away 😆 they were babies once and probably annoyed someone

Keep taking him and ignore them. Some people are just so rude honestly and I bet they have kids of their own too xx

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?