Feeling so fed up. My little one won’t play with any toys at home, he’s always playing with stuff that he isn’t allowed to - plug sockets etc… we’ve done what we can to hide them, but he always finds them

He also constantly bites me or pulls my hair or slaps me, I’m feeling so done at this point. He’s only like it with me, I just feel like a sh*t mum and that he hates me, he doesn’t listen to me and just plays up.

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Have you tried playing with him/ playing on your own and narrating how fun it is? Another important one is to check if the toys are aligned with his interest. If after modelling how to play and trying to get him to play with you he’s still not interested, perhaps time switch them up.

If he likes to flick switches, they sell toys that has buttons and switches to flick. Get plug covers if you’re worried and let him switch it on and off until he gets bored of it. Sit there and encourage it (my LO went through this too and I would sit next to him saying on and off a thousand times, he eventually got bored and moved on and learnt the words on and off). If it is the covers that he likes, put them all in a basket for exploration.

They show aggression when they can’t express themselves. I know it’s hard, but he’s perhaps only like this with you for your attention/wants you to understand him. He has no ill will and doesn’t know hate at this age ❤️

Sound like he's bored. My LB can get like this if I don't take him out enough or rotate his toys quickly enough. See what montessori toys are out there as I know they have a lot of good stuff especially things like busy boards. They are funny though aren't they toddlers?! Usually when I'm making dinner my LB fussed so much as he wants to see what I'm doing.. be involved so the other day I gave him 2 plastic containers, 1 filled with dry pasta and a tablespoon and he sat for ages quietly playing whilst I got on with dinner, even fussed when I picked him up to put him in his highchair to eat because he was so into it. They just want simple things to play with really. Maybe try something like that?! X

The other thing to remember is that they tend to kick off the most with the people who they feel safest with. When they're good as gold a nursery and come home and refuse to have their nappy changed etc it's because they're pushing the boundaries in an environment they feel safe and loved!

Sounds to me like he's trying to get your attention rather than him hating you. Do you play with him?

I’m giving him my complete attention… and yes playing with him,m

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