Baby won't settle unless on me

Help needed! Babybgirl us 3 weeks old and the the last couple of nights will not settle unless she's being held. I am struggling so much during the nights though- it's so hard to keep myself awake, hubby is back to work so I'm left to do the nights. Any advice in how to help get her back in her moses basket?!

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We are 2 weeks and I’m currently being slept on as I type 😅 so following for any advice! X

Try swaddling her nice and tight and popping a rolled blanket next to her to make her feel secure and in a smaller space.

I find that settling him on my chest till he’s in a deeper sleep then putting him down really helps, takes around 10 minutes but then I can safely put him in next to me and sleep myself x

Thank you, will certainly try these now! Currently have her on my chest as she's been fed so kept her upright. I'll wait till she's in a deep sleep and move her x

yes agree with Hannah, tricky to know when the deep sleep is but she will soon let you know, I use white noise sound as well and was advised re containment method to put a hand on her chest (and sometimes the other on top of her head) to make her feel snug and be able to smell me. also getting to learn sometimes when think she isn't settled she's just being noisy sleeper with the odd cry. I'm currently doing the keeping up right and trying to settle too. finally read about the next to me being too big for smaller and some babies, so currently have carry cot inside it, more snug space 😊 x

Baby still thinks that you and her are one. She only wants you because she still thinks that she’s still apart of you! I’d say try swaddling so she doesn’t wake herself up by her own sudden movement, and that way she’ll feel a little more secure and cozy.

I can totally relate - I tried everything with my first to get her into the next to me but nothing worked! After a couple of scary moments when I dozed on the sofa/bed with baby on me I discovered bed-sharing and have never looked back!
It used to be discouraged but isn’t anymore - the NICE guidelines have even been changed. Look up the safe sleeping guidelines on the Lullaby Trust website. If you are breastfeeding you can do this lying down and you will find that you can drift off whilst baby is feeding. Doing this currently with baby #3 and it’s the only way I can cope! It’s all totally normal and will get easier!

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔