Am I being selfish?

So my bf has a son with another woman and his son is sick and she basically told him he needs to watch him, she knows I’m scheduled for a c section and putting my bf at risk of also getting sick, so if he gets sick he could potentially miss his daughters birth this Friday via scheduled c section . Am I being selfish for telling him that it’s unfair that she is making him watch him?

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That’s not selfish at all , that’s selfish of her to possibly expose you and get a newborn sick smh

my thoughts exactly but now I feel like the bad guy for expressing how I feel to my bf..

Is there a reason she can't

she said because she has to work

😑 I mean I get it.... but I don't. Like this (your child's birth) is an extenuating circumstance.

We all have different opinions. I think you are being selfish. He has obligations to that son no matter what. If it would be on Friday during your C-section that he needs to watch him, yes, then it’s not right. But he must watch his kid when his mom is busy, whether he is sick or not.
Just tell your bf not to kiss his kid or eat from the same dishes while he watches him, and he will be fine.

No he won’t be fine , a newborn has no shots. God forbid the son has RSV and she has a newborn. Why take the risk…

Does she know your c-section is Friday? Was this pre-arranged? Is there someone else who could watch him for your bf? He does have an obligation to his son. But I do think if bm is aware of the risks then she is being kinda weird and should try and make other arrangements. I would.

I get it too, don’t get me wrong but as soon as my bf picked up his son she went right out to go drinking.. I know working is an obligation but if I were in her shoes I would have asked someone else or tried to make things work. It’s not fair that he was there for the birth of his son but then could potentially not be there for his daughter doesn’t sit right with me but I’m just gonna pray everything works out.

I completely understand. Your bf is stuck between a rock and a hard place. At the end of the day your health comes first because your immune system is weaker. If there’s absolutely no other option (grandparents) then I would make sure that the son is isolated and your bf is consistently wiping down and lysoling EVERYTHING. You can take care of a sick child and still not get sick. I speak from experience with my now husband. When we were engaged his bm tried the same thing and I just had to do my due diligence with making sure everyone isolated properly , especially when I was pregnant & the baby came

she def knows about my scheduled c section . :/

Ask ur bf to find alternative childcare for his son- such as a grandmother or babysitter. He has obligations but he does not have to be there himself especially during this sensitive time

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We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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