We both want a 3rd child but i can’t do the newborn stage!

So my husband really wants another child and I do too however I find it extremely hard the first bit I turn into a different person I get so easily irritated by everyone around me I end up raging over pathetic things and I feel guilty being that person around my children and my husband.
I completely loose myself and everything goes on hold.
I feel kinda sad to not have another child because of this because once I’m better I feel like I enjoy motherhood so much and do so much with my children but I’ve had this with both of my 2 babies so I know I will feel the same again 3rd time round.

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I feel the same. I absolutely HATED the newborn phase with my first, but ideally we want 3 kids. Im pregnant with my second and trying hard not to think about the newborn phase with this one...literally gives me SO much anxiety 😫
Being a mother is a lot of sacrifice, especially those first few months and especially if you EBF...like you said literally everything else is on hold. I was just feeling like I was getting my life back at 8 months PP but now we are having a second in October so gunna have to put it on pause again 😫🫠😭

I can relate to this! It took me 3 years to agree to have a second baby. Not having anymore though, I don't want to go through pregnancy or childbirth again.

Unfortunately, we are sticking with 2 - as much as I've always wanted a big family and love love love babies it took 3 years to conceive my lg who is now 20 months and a total different kettle of fish to my son and being in our 40s we are knackered and as much as it pains me to say -
we are done 🙃

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