Supportive or bragging

I'm on a page on FB for Nov 21 babies and there is a mum who posts about her child doing the most advanced things but then puts some silly worry she has about it. It's a brag disguised as a question. This child should be part of Mensa for the advanced things they're doing but it stresses other mums out. I replied to her once that it's completely unnecessary. She knows her child is advanced and it worries other mum's. My child is delayed as she was born with brain cancer so lost a year of her life to chemo, so whilst I know she is behind, it still stresses me out seeing how far behind she is to 'average' kids, let alone perfect ones x

I come on here quite a lot and this group is my favourite by far for support. If someone asks 'can your kid count to 10?' I would comment yes, but if someone posted they were so worried about their kid couldnt count to 10 i dont see it helpful to comment and say yours can count to 20 🙈 I distinctly remember a post I made about something that was really upsetting me looking for support and people JUMPED on it saying 'my kids the total opposite' 'my kid does this this and that' and it made me feel even worse. I don't know who you're talking about, but I think just in general it's good to think about what you're commenting on those kind of posts x

People do it in real life too. A 'friend' came to my house and basically got her kid the same age to say all the sentences that he could say, and count and do colours etc in front of me. Then proceeded to say "do you think Jakob will ever talk?" 🤬

well actually, mine can count to ten in 4 languages, and backwards, whilst reading shakespeare 😂😂😂

well mine can do all that while hopping on one leg so 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

after 16 hours solid sleep. But he only slept so well cos he does a triathlon every day

I think bragging usually hides alot of insecurities, yes Myla is fairly advanced but I'm the first to admit that she is a giant bumhole quite alot of the time 🤣🤣

I hate this so much! I see it all too often! I get mums are proud of their kids and just excited to tell people their achievements etc. but when someone is genuinely worried about something or looking for reassurance it’s the last thing you need! All kids have their own ways of doing and learning things things and their own personalities and as mums it’s so hard not to compare your child to the next (we all do it!!) my boy can’t communicate yet and has very few words but yet can do so many other things! But I always get comments like “he needs to talk now” 🙄 asif I can wave my magic wand he’ll suddenly speak 4 languages! Lol

😳 some people are so insensitive and immature.

Why do I feel I kinda know who this person is 🤦‍♀️😂 but honestly , I have stopped comparing my child to others because it stresses me out. I am a stress pot as is.

she commented on this post but I seemed to have missed it so must’ve been deleted 😂

Hahaha. 🤦‍♀️😂

@Mel s Shocking. That is horrible. She must be lacking something in her life to have to put a child down to make herself feel better.

I totally get this. My daughter didn't walk until this month (27 months!) which means she there must be something I did wrong as a mother and therefore I need advice and judging! 🙄

Each child has their own pace and different strengths. I just tried to reassure myself that they all catch up in the end...you never see a child crawling into their first day of school!

There are enough people out there dragging us down, this should be a supportive environment. My daughter isn't the best walker, talker or counter and is nowhere near nappy trained, but she is amazing just as she is, she makes everyone smile and she'll do everything in her own time. Don't let them grind you down. For every boaster on here are more people who want to support and help you.