Visitors after birth

It's totally up to you, whatever you feel comfortable with 😊

I allowed visitors pretty much straight away with my first, I found it helpful as they'd help out with tidying and making me drinks and food :) but totally reasonable that you want to wait to allow visitors! X

I’m allowing us at least the first day with baby and then slowly introducing visitors. Two weeks for us would feel like quite a while to keep baby away from eager grandparents etc because ultimately they will be a massive help/part of our support network x

With my first I had visitors within a day or so but now that I’m expecting my second I have said that I don’t want visitors at the hospital and that I will let family and friends know when we are ready for visits ☺️

I think it depends on WHO the visitor is.

To begin with, we will only allow our parents to visit and not for long periods of time. I’ll have zero qualms with letting them know if I need them to leave so I can rest.

As much as I love her, I know that I don’t want my grandmother visiting, she’s due to fly into the country about a month before my due date and stay until August, we will see her at a wedding late June and then at my parents house when we visit there but I won’t have her at my house. She is used to being waited in hand and foot and I do not need an extra person to care for

I didn’t have any visitors for the first 2 weeks, the only exceptions being my mum, sister and my 2 nieces who I’m close enough to that I could tell them to leave if they’d overstayed their welcome! They didn’t though and only popped in for a cuddle and a coffee and then would leave as they live locally. You have to do what’s best for you and your new little family though

I’m having my first baby and have said to family I will let people know when we are ready for visitors. As well as this have said I only want them for an hour and won’t be making people food and things as we don’t know what is going to happen and I’ll want to just relax

We're saying no visitors at hospital and probably first few days just us (will play it by ear) then when visitors come we're not being hosts, and don't want long visits!
I'm also not hesitant to take myself and baby into another room if either of us need a break, Husband knows this is my signal that I'm done and guests need to leave, especially his side of the family. My side I know I can just ask to leave and they would.

I’m going to wait and see how I feel but I’m expecting it to kind of go as follows:

First day home - my parents and in laws for a *brief* visit to meet the baby. My mum doesn’t count as a guest in my eyes though and I would be happy for her to stay longer while we get comfortable and she can come & go regularly
In the first week - my sister and partners sisters to meet the baby again brief visit
In second week (or maybe first depending on how things turn out) - probably my partner’s grandparents as it’s their first great grandchild

Wider family/aunties/uncles/friends will just have to wait till their invited tbh, I don’t know how I’ll feel and anybody beyond the immediate family isn’t a priority to me for them to meet the baby. I might be happy for them to come soon after I might not, just going to play it by ear!

Over the first few weeks I only want brief occasional visits, I don’t want my in laws, sister or parents to be round constantly. My mum is the only exception to that

I've told my husband we're not having anyone coming over for the first two weeks after we're back from the hospital!
Second kid so I want the 4 of us to get used to this new life together, settle and not having to make conversation etc.

With my first we wanted a few days alone with our baby to get used to being parents. With our second we have said no visitors for the first week so my first born can bond with the baby. No one drops in unannounced, no one stays all day and if they don’t make a fuss of my first born then they don’t see my baby

My doorbell will be being silenced just in case anyone does decide to stop by unannounced

I’m saying no visitors for 2 weeks but will see how I feel and if I feel up to it maybe have people earlier but I’m just setting that boundary now as it’s always easier to go back from 2 weeks than explain to someone that you don’t want to see them xx

We’ve said no visitors for the first 4 weeks. Mainly because my parents live abroad and I want them to be the first to meet our baby. They are coming after my husband goes back to work (he will be off for 4 weeks) and will be with me most of the day while here so I didn’t want them to intrude on my husband’s time with our baby and also give me enough time to recover and be comfortable with having them around for a long period of time.

I’m not sure when my in-laws will come after the 4 weeks - whether it’s when my parents are here or once they leave as I’m worried about going from 0-100 at the 4 week mark.

I think I need to see how I feel, our dog is not the best with visitors as it is so I don’t want to add that stress on top of getting him used to baby.

However my fiancé did say “it’s a bit awkward telling people they can’t come at all though” so I do see that point of view too. Ultimately it’s your baby and your time to bond so whatever you feel is best for you x

Me and my partner have said at least 1 week no visitors and we will be telling people we have an hour time limit unless we change our minds. We don't want to feel swarmed by people while I'm recovering, were both learning how to be parents and I'm learning to breastfeed x

I think I’m going to play it by ear, I want people to meet the baby but also hate the thought of it too 😅 I’ll see how birth goes and how I feel and just tell people well let them know when we’re ready x

With my last we had no visitors for the first week as my mum and brother were covid positive and my MIL had a chest infection. It felt really easy to tell people no until our mums had been. I really needed that week to adjust and my little one had a few health conditions and breastfeeding was really difficult to begin with.

I’m going to be strict again this time round, but more for the sake of my toddler and I don’t want it to be too overwhelming for her. I want us to have quality time to bond as a family of 4 especially with the limited time my husband will have off work 🤍