pregnant & frustrated

Im so frustrated... my partner m44 & i f33 havent had any sex in over two months. Im 8 months pregnant, however even when i wasn't so pregnant i tried to initiate and have been turned out because he was about to eat his BOILED EGGS!! We only been together for two years but had more sex related problems than probably any other couple! I seen his browsing history in the past and it was full of porn... even when he was at work!! or in the bedroom when i was at home... i dont usually mind porn but he chose porn over me... he was going limp on me, wouldn't finish or just go through periods of no sex... I tried to talk to him about this and he said he no longer watches that stuff and wont talk more... just constant excuses that hes tired or i should jump him and he will never refuse me....but from lack of sex, refusals and constantly eyeing other women in the street i understand that he is just not telling me the truth and refusing communication. Im very frustrated and it started to affect my self esteem.
We also just moved to a new house that we bought together and baby on the way... All this makes me want to fight for this relationship but i feel like im betraying myself and i feel like i will be affected long term by this... It keeps me sleepless at nights

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If I am being honest with you getting men to communicate can be very difficult. However I understand why you are hurt you just need to decide if this is something you can live with long term because unless he’s willing to do counseling on his own or with you I don’t think it will change

Some men get very uncomfortable having sex with pregnant women, like they find it weird there’s a human in the belly and think their Willy is so big it’s going to hit the baby 🤣 he might be one that just finds it odd, you might find it gets better after baby too so try stick it out and see how it goes,

Unfortunately issues with sex can be a deal breaker for some especially if it’s a long term issue, I’d try again calmly to explain that it’s making you feel upset and like he doesn’t want it either you and you just need some reassurance but make sure not to have a go at him because he’ll just retreat, if it continues past baby coming then I guess you’ll have to work out if it’s something you can live with or you want out /: x

Is there a chance he’s experiencing erectile dysfunction and is embarrassed and therefore avoiding sex and talking about it? Thinking about his age, it could be something that’s a factor. Men arent the best communicators

nah no disfunction there for sure… i think its more of a porn addiction that does this to him… well thats my guess at least

It wouldn't bother me. He's watching random people that he will never meet in real life the most I get out of that is that hes turned on by some things that maybe you and him aren't trying as yet... Whatever the cases at least he's not on Facebook or any other social media scrolling through real-life people that are in the area or accessible to get to.

To me at the end of the day, they are men ladies. It's in there nature to want to fuck alot and I understand that they can be loyal but they still have wondering eyes just like we have eyes, its just that we're tuned differently.

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