Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for 6
years within that time he’s never once brought up a dna test of we was to ever have kids . Well earlier in my pregnancy we got into an argument and he decided to get petty and say he wants a paternity test for the baby .The argument had nothing to do with trust issues… I couldn’t believe he said that and I expressed to him how disrespected I felt that he would even question his child ! That we literally planned ! I mean intense planning ,like both of us was ovulation tracking etc . Any way the argument died down and we talked he explained that it was not to take a shot at me but because some of his family/friends turned out to be raising kids that are not theirs you can never be to sure and he always thought about getting a dna test regardless . In that moment I told him I’m calling BS though because we actively planned our pregnancy and if you can’t trust me when we did all of it together then we shouldn’t be together. I told him I’ll give him the dna test but my respect for him will be gone given I gave him no reason to doubt me . He’s going off of other people’s trauma . I told him I wouldn’t want to continue life with him because I will not have my trust questioned like that . Anyway he’s never brought it up again and is transitioning into fatherhood really good . He takes care of me and anything we need .Been there for every doctors appointment and over all he’s my support system.Doesnt miss a beat . Fast forward to now I was thinking about it and I do believe to an extent that dna testing should be mandatory at birth given that I have many cousins that were married and stepping out of the marriages that ultimately ended with a baby and their husbands finding out years later the child’s not theirs and I thought they were so
wrong because our family knew but didn’t want to get involved in their marriages .So I see his point and low key agree with it but at the same time that’s their problems not ours .So now I’m thinking to give him the dna test but I don’t want him to think I’m having doubts .Being that I’ve never cheated on him and like I said it was planned .LITERALLY 🙄 thoughts ?
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amazon has paternity test, my boyfriend had questioned my first pregnancy, more than once, but not until’ after he was here, so i said you know what? i’m doing a dna test, and i’m going to sit here and laugh in your face when you feel like garbage for questioning him, it was an easy process, didn’t take long at all, came back fairly quick, i was so angry that he even did question his son. it makes you feel a certain type of way, so when the results came back, i threw it in his face.🤦🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️

I also think it should be mandatory at birth.. I’ve had two children and both times I was the one to offer a dna test to the fathers because I never wanted them to have any doubt.. IMO, I don’t think it’s fair of us to withhold that kind of certainty from the father or the child whether we were sleeping with multiple men or not, but a woman who knows has nothing to hide..wishing you the best in your decision🫶🏾

Personally I totally get wanting to do a DNA test even if you know 1000% that it's his child as we have all heard and known people who have unfortunately been raising other people's children without knowing it's not there children it's sad to say but a lot of mum do keep that stuff secret and trick men into raising children that arnt their's but I also get feeling betrayed and hurt buy the thought of doubt of the legitimacy of ur child DNA I would be so hurt if my other half asked for a DNA test but in reality while being incredibly hurt by it I would do a DNA test so I could prove that there a dick for doubting it and because I can understand men in general questioning DNA being how many children are raised by men that arnt there biological parents x

I’d phrase it as, “I’ve thought a lot about what you said a while back and I changed my mind. I’m going to take a paternity test to keep your mind at ease” so he doesn’t feel as though it’s out of the blue or over a guilty conscience
There’s a ridiculous amount of men raising children that aren’t theirs without knowing it, so I’m on the same boat that all men deserve to have a paternity test. Unfortunately, there’s some women who get motivated to cheat from infertility issues too. The shitty few are to blame than the men who get to watch their friends raising children that aren’t theirs

My ex accused me of carrying another man's baby (don't know if he actually believed that) he told everyone I g9t pregnant with another man's baby. It was so humiliating!
I had his ex (who he was cheating on me with) confront me bc he told her I wasn't pregnant (I was) and the baby wasn't his(it was) I showed her the ultrasound and she went "well he says it isn't his so I guess we'll know in nine months"
I was like, "no we can know before then" I offered to do fetal paternity testing. His story changed pretty quick after that.
wow smh
I do think in many cases they are bluffing to be petty

It is wrong of me to want a DNA test unfortunately I know it's his baby there isn't any other options and the little man is his twin but damn it I want a new BD

girl same, part of me wishes I let him think I cheated so he'd leave me alone 😭😭😭
Lmao

YESSSSSSS THANK YOU OMGOODNESS YESSSSSSS just go away sir