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Am i a shitty mom

My son is about to be 9 months, and we currently live with his dad in a duplex. He doesnt work. If he does he works maybe 3 days and finds an excuse to quit. He says its not worth his time for what they pay. I work sunday through friday 5 am to 1:30 and i cant make ends meet. When i was on maternity leave he let bills rack up crazy and i had to use my whole retun to pay off the bills. And now ik the asshole because we obly jave about 200 dollars till i get paid again on the 18th. This is what he had to say when i complained that we wouldnt have had to use all of my return of he wouldve ketp a job that was perfect for our schedule and for our commute. He quit the job because they obly paid him 18/hr and he wasnt gonna do the job pf a machine for soemone who smokes a vape( he hates people who vape and his manager was doing so). Am i a shitty mom if i take my son away from his dad and run to harbor house? I just cant keep with financial abuse. I try everything to keep us above water and he just spits in my face about it.

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umm he seems absolutely insufferable im sorry you’re going through this mama, I wouldn’t say you’re a shitty mom at ALL, in fact quite the opposite… you shouldn’t have to take care of a baby AND a manchild

leave before he makes u pay his debts

This literally sounds like a skit from a “how to deal with a narcissist page” I’m so sorry.
I’d be responding with

“Ya know what, I am stuck, because you stuck me here. And now call me weird when I’m upset that I’m the only one working to support our family? Ew, you’re weird. I’d support you if there was something to support but what am I suppose to hype you up for not being a responsible adult that can keep a job longer than you wear a pair of underwear? I want you to win, I’d sing your praises if I wasn’t mad ALL THE TIME. You made me spiteful. Do you plan to do anything about it, or just piss and moan about yourself and your blatant failures some more?”

I’m raging for you

Hi this is reality and in reality we live under capitalism and under capitalism money is required in order to survive.

Not sure what part is hard for him to understand.

This bum will never amount to anything and he will be nothing but a financial burden to you and your child.

This man is expensive, you cannot afford him.

You’re a smart mom bc you’re thinking of stability for your child. I’d go with your gut feeling

It just sucks when you really saw a forever with someone and they just completely change up on you. Hes made me such an angry person my hair falls out , i lost so much weight. I get fainting spells now. This man quite literally destroyed the women i was but fuck if im gonna let him hinder me from being the best mother i can be. Thank you guys because my family just tells me to stick it out because hes the dad but i know theres a better life waiting for me and my baby boy

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Am i a shitty mom

My son is about to be 9 months, and we currently live with his dad in a duplex. He doesnt work. If he does he works maybe 3 days and finds an excuse to quit. He says its not worth his time for what they pay. I work sunday through friday 5 am to 1:30 and i cant make ends meet. When i was on maternity leave he let bills rack up crazy and i had to use my whole retun to pay off the bills. And now ik the asshole because we obly jave about 200 dollars till i get paid again on the 18th. This is what he had to say when i complained that we wouldnt have had to use all of my return of he wouldve ketp a job that was perfect for our schedule and for our commute. He quit the job because they obly paid him 18/hr and he wasnt gonna do the job pf a machine for soemone who smokes a vape( he hates people who vape and his manager was doing so). Am i a shitty mom if i take my son away from his dad and run to harbor house? I just cant keep with financial abuse. I try everything to keep us above water and he just spits in my face about it.

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