Does anyone else ever feel like the “disposable” friend?

Yep think it plays into social dynamics and where you sit in that

I'm definitely the fringe/disposable friend
I'm never the one they call to hangout. I'm the one left out of plans. Gets cancelled on sort of thing. It makes me sad sometimes that I don't have any of those ride or die close friendships but I've kind of just accepted that maybe I'm not someone people want to be friends with 🤷

Especially so after I had kids and most of my friends did not.

I feel for you! It really sucks. Im similar in that way too. Before my child i had a best friend, but she had a child. I always helped out. Anything needed I done it. Until it got to the point where she needed me more and more and I couldn't physically give any more. When I told her how I felt I was met with how selfish I was.... fair to say we ain't friends. Then I had another friend who had 5 kids. I helped out all the time again before I had my own child. Got them presents for xmas. Picked them up from school. I never wanted anything back. But then i had a baby. And i got one visit. And she didnt think of my child at xmas but got a random friend a fancy bracelet. But I moved an hour away and I was never visited. She left me out of party's and just felt like she only messaged with problems.Again first time I told her how I felt she said It was all about me in one horrible message.

Im so confused by this.

Ive definitely felt this. My best friend of 16 years cut me off over some bs and then in the last year two of my closest friends dropped me and it hurts.

Yeah it sucks feeling this way, I had a friend who would only call me when she was upset with her best friend I would be there for her and she would cry and tell me everything about it then a week later she wouldnt talk to me because she fixed things with her friend. Almost all my friends would just contact me when they needed a favor then nothing 😅

Yep. I’ve been sometimes bestie while they’re benefiting from me, and then they switch up.

If you find this is a pattern in your life, it would be a good thing to talk through with a therapist. Try not to give and give to the point you are upset when people don't reciprocate. Try to stop giving earlier and move on to investing your time and energy to the people that give back to you too.