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Do yall think 🤔 that texting other men/women online is consider cheating? Or do you think cheating is just physical and texting?

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Are they texting romantic/sexual texts?

I think if there is any connection that I believe I should be the only one supplying as his partner, sexual or emotional, yes, I consider it cheating. That’s my personal boundary.
Platonic texts, wouldn’t have you asking this.

Context matters.
If they’re sexual, explicit or pushing boundaries then yes. If they’re just friendly or having a chat, then absolutely fine. My partner is entitled to have female friends

If it is flirty or has romantic vibes then yes. Also any sexual content.

i mean i think we can all agree platonic chats with another female aren’t cheating but if it’s sexual how would it not be considered cheating .. also because what’s the point of sexual chats with another woman
i think anything being hidden from your partner, something you wouldn’t tell your partner or something you would feel guilty about doing or know is wrong … is cheating (with another person) lol

Just romantic or just sexual doesn’t matter. Looking for any type of gratification outside of the relationship is cheating.
Unless you define it differently for your personal relationship.

I accidentally pressed no but I meant to say Yes

If it’s outside of what boundaries/rules you laid in your relationship it’s cheating. Some people are more flexible on what monogamy looks like to them but if you’re having to hide it from your partner it’s cheating.

If there’s a sexual or overly emotional convo going on then yes I do say it’s cheating. Just texting platonically then no.

To the question you asked for the poll, no, I don't think it is cheating. If there is romantic/sexual context, which you did mention in the comments, I do think it is. However, every relationship is different. Some people don't mind. If it's something that you have been clear with your partner about and he does it anyway, then it's an issue for sure.

Depends on the context. If he is texting her something like, please make sure we have xyz for tomorrows meeting. That’s not cheating. Now if he’s flirting with them, that’s another thing.

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