High needs/fussy baby since birth

I have found it hard to accept but I think my son classifies as a high needs baby. He has been fussy since about 4 days PP. We firstly blamed it on colic, then reflux, then dairy allergy and now I am running out of ideas as to why he is the way he is.

We get flashes of a calmer, happier baby where he chats and smiles but alot of the day he is miserable and his cries go from 0-100 very quickly. All of my day is spent trying to entertain him and distract him enough to keep him calm.

We have been to the GP and HV multiple times and they have said that as far as they can work out there isn't anything specific that they can point to that may be causing his behaviour. He is meeting his milestones although hasnt giggled yet and hates tummy time so I can imagine he may end up delayed with some of his motor skills.

I just wanted to post on here to see if anyone else was struggling and if so just to tell you that you are not alone. If you have any tips to share, or want to vent too, would love to hear from you. I felt a bit embarrassed posting this as I see so badly want to be enjoying my baby.

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My little girl is whingey and makes me feel deflated and I always think why are you whingey why can’t you just be happy! 🫣 x

This sounds like our little boy everything you said I could have written, however, just started to giggle with a lot of work and distraction. I wonder how old he is? Me and my partner are still doing shift at night as well, as he's so figity and clingy. You are not alone. I am hoping it's all a stage and will pass in time. Some babies just need a lot more than others. You're not alone.

You just described our daughter. The 0-100 screams are so frustrating. Most of the time I try and “fake it til you make it” as in just smile and laugh in an exaggerated way and she will smile. She actually giggled the other day at the dog and then at me but hasn’t since, no matter how many faces I pull 😅 It is exhausting. You got this mama!

My first was a fussy baby. He just whinged and cried all day. He’s now three and is still super intense but is an absolute joy. I spent the whole first year of his life frustrated and trying to ‘fix’ him but It’s just temperament and you kinda just have to accept it and find ways to manage. It definitely gets easier. I found the more skills he developed the more he would settle so when he was crawling and then talking and then walking he was much happier. Try not to compare to other babies, you are literally doing parenting on hard mode. My second by comparison is so easy and it makes me so proud of myself for what I went through with my first. Enjoy the good bits and roll with the bad and remember that everything is a phase and they change so much all the time.

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