Is it all kids or just mine...

So more and more I'm noticing my daughter lie to me... like today I told her to shower and she pretended to take one...I asked her to unlock the door so I can pee and she was like I need to use the bathroom I told her to open it now and she did... so apparently she ran the water never took off her undies and straight up lied when I asked her abkut showering... she is only 9 years old and I'm getting fed up with the lying every day. Any advice? Tell me I'm not the only one.

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I did this when I was 9. I’d like to say im a pretty good person now 🤣. I hated showering for some reason I said “it took too long”.
Try to encourage her to tell you why she doesn’t like showering or why she lies so she learns to think critically about how she feels about things.

@Jackie I'm sure I did the same thing but man does she stink at the end of the day lol I told her she doesn't need to wash her hair everyday but she should rinse off cause she plays hard at school to where her pits stink lol and I can't let her go out like that 🤣

My 10 year old lies all the time. Some of it is like why lie about that? It drives me insane. I tell him it makes me feel like he's calling me stupid and it hurts my feelings. I've explained that I get more hurt about the lie he's told me vs whatever he has done. I know he loves and care for me. I just don't get it either.

The lying is not cool! I wonder why she does it.

@Danie the lying about nothing is what drives me insane.. and I let her know if you can lie about the little things how am I supposed to believe you with the big things. I give her everything and it's starting to feel like I'm getting taken advantage of and I'm being walked all over. Idk but somethings got to give... I take away her things and she still does it like the consequences mean nothing to her

@Jackie definitely not especially when I give her the option to not wash her hair everyday 🙄... she be lying about the littlest things too like it's cool or something

The little things for real! It's not impressive and it's annoying. I hate it but he tells me things and I just hold back the eye roll because I don't believe him. He gets all kinds of offended when I don't believe him, like I'm at fault. But I just explain over and over it's hard to believe anything you say. And how am I to help you? I want to help and protect you but I can't if your lying to me all the time. I have thought that it's because he is 50/50 and his dad and I can not co parent at all. So their is no communication. But I don't know how to make it better.

I went through a phase of unnecessarily lying as a kid. She should grow out of it. Tell her if she lies she can’t expect honesty out of others. And it would hurt her feelings to be lied to. But it’s just a little rebellious phase. Swear she willll grow out of it.

@Danie we have the same kid I swear mine is just a female version.. I hold back the eye roll or that tone I use when I know you are lying lol... mine get offended and says you never believe me! Lol my response is and whose fault is that... we in the same boat... it's hard to tell my kid I don't believe her because she lies all the time because like you said you do want to and support them but it's like how? I was wondering if therapy would but she is so against it and I'm afraid she just gonna lie and manipulate the therapist

@Yaya I pray she does cause it's gonna be real hard to keep up with all them lies. Especially as she gets older

@Luz at least your nephew has an excuse ... mine is just lazy and rather watch TV even though she stinks 🙄

Oh damn I can't believe I haven't thought of that. My son is in therapy. 😔 What's he saying about me. I have brought up the lies to her, not much has changed. He also gaslights me too. Which really messes me up. I brought that up with her too. Now I'm in a thought of what if they therapist believes him and thinks I'm crazy and lying. Maybe we can get our kids together and they could lie to each other until they don't like the feeling anymore and stop. 😁

@Danie it's so scary how these kids are that manipulative already at such a young age... and it's super hard cause my kid also gets in trouble at school too ugh... but for real maybe they should get together and just lie lol or maybe it would be worse cause they condone in each other's behavior lol then we really are in trouble

Yeah that's a good point. Them tag teaming the world, like the joker and Harley Quinn. 😊

If she really really hates showering you could try offering her a reward for doing it? Lol

I completely understand. I regret giving my mom so much trouble as a kid. She was a single mom and just trying her best. Yall are gonna be best friends you watch. Then it’s gonna be hard for her to lie to you. That’s how I am with my mom. I just can’t lie to that sweet little face anymore. I’m an open book. But that’s simply because my mom can see RIGHT through me I couldn’t lie nowadays if i wanted to. 😔

lol 😆 I hope not but who knows maybe they will get into politics

I hope we become best friends ... I would want nothing more

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

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