Feeling like I’m very alone

Might be an unpopular opinion here but just give him the baby. Or wake him up. If he complains, you need your “you” time too.

But yes, literally just park baby with him and go do whatever you need to do, shower, go out and get your nails done. Whatever you need to do. Don’t ask for time, take time. I feel like we get so caught up giving our bodies to someone else we forget they are ours and we have autonomy to ask and take. Mama you’ve been living and breathing another person since you got pregnant. Take some of yourself back. It’s ok.

You’re doing great and I’m proud of you babe. Xo.

I’ve honestly never even thought of that. Just giving him to his Dad. When he spends time with him he’s great. Like right now, I’m settling little one, my partner woke up, went on his phone and is now snoring again already. He doesn’t think to ask if I need a break even at 4am.

I will start doing what you said, I think I need to. For my own health and wellbeing too. I guess if I don’t look after myself as well, I’ll be no good to little one.

Thank you so much for your kind words. You’ve got me all emotional💜 it means a lot xxx

Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing❤️

I echo ‘s feedback. You must not ask for time you have to take it. Men think different to us, we get ourselves all in our heads wishing they would just do the things we are ruminating about.

To add, I think it’s hard for us to be away from the baby and the mum guilt from doing anything for ourselves can overwhelm but start with small things and then you’ll be more comfortable with putting yourself more. You may just find your partner champions you for doing so!

Mine did, I would just give him the baby and go shower, or say I’m going to the grocery store and use it as an opportunity to go get myself an iced latte from Costa as a treat!

Now I’m up to going gym four times a week. I put it in a shared Google cal and as it’s the diary it’s happening!!

Hope this helps, you’ve got this xx

I just really needed to air it out because I would start to go mad if I didn’t I think!

Thank you for the kind and reassuring words and advice.

He occasionally offers to make my dinner when I’m holding a fast asleep LO, but then brings it to the sofa for me eat. I know I could ask him to take him but like you said, mum guilt for disturbing my baba. I also don’t feel I should have to ask and he should maybe offer I guess? Like you said, men don’t think like this. But then he says to me ‘can you hold him while I put my shoes on?’. But he doesn’t understand there’s no one to hold him when I put my shoes on🙈

Thank you so much again xx.