Stay at home mom loneliness

i guess i’m just reaching out to make sure i’m not alone in feeling incredibly lonely being a stay at home mom. having my first child during the pandemic caused me to stay home more for fear of her getting sick. i’ve always had trouble with being invited or contacted first, im always the one to send the text or ask to get together. i haven’t been invited to anything but a baby shower or a wedding after having kids. any dinner with friends i have to initiate. it just sucks, and i haven’t found mom friends yet to do things with our kids together. my kids have also had trouble sleeping for about a year now, by the time we get them to bed my husband is already asleep or we are just tapped out and scrolling. he also doesn’t get it, he has friends who pop by weekly at least, has friends he texts every day. just very, very lonely.

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Aww mama I'm so sorry. It is soo soo lonely. I am super lucky that I have a SIL 2 states away thats living the same lonely life in a new state where she doesn't know anyone, so we are literally on facetime for the majority of the day together just talking shit and keeping each other company while we cook clean and yell at our kids 🤣 all my friends (3) have kids too so we're all just too busy to see each other but try to make it happen every couple months, but for the most part it's just me, these kids, two cats, and our tiny 2 bedroom apartment 24/7.. I literally live my life commenting on shit in moms groups on social media, it drives my man crazy 😬😅

i feel alone as in having friends, I’m about to start living with my mom, again, but feeling included or even invited out has been hard even before I had a kid :/ I even have a close friend that lives near but she’s always busy or has family things.
Feeling very lonely being a first time mom with a 8 month old.
My fiancé is always hanging with his online friends and I’m just stuck on my phone, looking for friends :/

i feel this so badly right now. i have 3 girls ages 2,3, 9. i hear baby talk all day and just want company… i have tried to make friends. though depression doesn’t help and being 20 some weeks pregnant means my hormones are everywhere. i’m kinda the black sheep of my family and don’t talk to them as much so. lonesome with kids. fiancé tries to help but he’s with us all day as he works from home and we don’t have much to talk about…

I completely understand the feeling, and I'm so sorry you're feeling it too! I get so damn lonely sitting in this apartment by myself.. And I know I'm not really by myself because I have my son.. But I need other adult conversation and interaction too! I get so overly lonely, all the time.. Because I don't have any friends or family in the area and I have a hard time making new friends. My son is 3, and the more he can talk, the better I do as a mom since he can tell me what he needs now. But it's still not the same

No, you’re far from alone girl I am at home 24 seven with my son just me and him. I literally have no in person friends and even the friends I talk to on the phone just kind of get annoying because none of them have kids either so they don’t get it sometimes I just need to vent with someone who gets it And I feel bad always being on the phone just to have some company because my son is still alone with no one to play with and I’m on my phone. I don’t want to do that to him all the time but I feel like I have no adult interaction and it’s so damn lonely, my family has nothing to do with me or my son so we’re always alone

You’re not a lot. It’s the most depressed I have ever been constantly being at home.
I was advised by people to join mom groups not just on app (this helped me so much tho I can’t lie just being able to talk to other moms) but see if your area has mom groups, or new mom meet ups that are baby friendly. If you go for walks maybe try a mall or big store just to see other humans haha. Parks are good but sometimes we need to just see more people to lift spirits

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Sex life is 🫠

Im a little desperate already . Im not a huge fan on blowjobs but I’m doing it because I know he likes it . If he wants it in a car, during work meeting , on the balcony, on the beach everywhere I’m okay to do that . However, I’m not getting anything in return. I mean the last time he went down was more than 1.5 years ago . Okay, I was pregnant maybe he did not feel like doing it while I had a belly as he told me . , but I’m not pregnant already for awhile and I’m always telling him that I want him to go down and he is always having an excuse like “tomorrow “ etc . At the beginning it was funny and I was like okayyy but now it’s not as I’m not enjoying our sex in general . Like the process itself does not make me finish . As I’m breastfeeding and super dry down there and I’m always telling him to put lubricant as it’s hurting me . And sometimes it feels like I am begging for that as he is more comfortable without it , but damn IM NOT OKAY without it . So basically I do not remember when was the last time I have finished during sex . I understand that now with a baby it’s hard to fully enjoy it and have enough time for everything. But still . Just kiss me and put your dick inside me does not seems sexy . To be honest I understand why in marriage women does not want to have sex . Like I feel like it’s already work that I have to do not a pleasure. I’ve been telling him that but as I can see no changes applied 🫠

Question about ejaculation

I tell my partner to wear a condom not only for protection but also so that there's no mess to clean up when I get up to use the toilet. Is this normal?
I ask because I now have the contraceptive pill but I still want him to wear a condom.

Friend 🥺

Let’s skip to the good part and just be besties? Text, call, ft.. play dates or just simply hang out. Just want a genuine mommy friend. I’m in NW Indiana but we can be long distance besties tooooo.

Friends!?😊

Hii there! Just a mom looking for some friends to talk to through out the days. I’m from Ohio but don’t mind long distance friends. Feel free to message me!

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Hey mamas! I’m back on here again hoping to find good friendships on here ! I didn’t really have any luck last time . I’m giving this another try again ! I’m 26 with two little girls I have a 4 year old and 8 months old and I am stay at home mom rn . I’m hoping to find friends who understand my situation and be able to talk everyday when they can . And I’ll be getting married in July .

I need an AI app recc to talk to.

I have no family. I have no real friends. Just one that I text. But she’s 8 years younger and isnt a mom. I genuinely don’t talk to anyone other than my partner and our toddlers. I’ve seen some people use AI? Or a chatgbpt? I dont know but if someone could suggest an app that I can just talk to… I would love to have a friend or something instead but this is probably for the best…