Single mum struggling

Hi girls, I’m a ftm to a 5week old LB. At the weekends and evenings I’m plodding along okay with the help of my parents however during the week I’m so overwhelmed and feel like I’m drowning!

I find myself crying most of the day when I’m in the house. I try and get out the house as much as I can but as soon as I come home it feels like I’m back in a dark hole and just waiting for 6pm for my parents to come home!

My LB is such an angel and isn’t a problem at all but it’s just me and my thoughts most of the time and I don’t know where to turn. I feel like I need to talk to someone but I’ve always got a feeling that I’ll say something and they’ll take my baby away from me or give him to his dad ☹️

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Just remember that it really does get easier. By 3 months everything will have calmed down. It’s very very tough at the beginning

i am also a single mum who lives with their parents to a 8 week old boy and i can tell you you’re not alone! you are doing an incredibly hard job, made for 2 people, ALONE! they say it takes a village for a reason, have you tried going to baby classes? i’m going to as many as i can and only find myself 2 days a week where i’ve got nothing planned for us! it does get easier. he’s now 8 weeks and id getting excited by toys which is so amazing and means we have more to do :)

I’ve got a visit with my HV at the end of the month do I wait until then or do you think I can message her sooner? I’m not really sure how you get in contact with them x

we’ve got one class that we went to today which was lovely so will go back, it’s just knowing when other classes are on around me but thank you so much! It definitely is hard being a single mum, it’s hard to find time to look after me when trying to look after him as well x

Do you not have your health visitors phone number? I remember mine explicitly showing me the number on the letter inside my LOs red book. Maybe you could call your GP and ask if they have the number for your health visitor?

If you could get a hold of them I would definitely raise your concerns with them before the next visit.

I’ll get his book out and have a little look and see, if not we’re only a short walk from the GP so will probably be quicker to go in x

Those early post partum days are wild! Your hormones are all over the place. When they call them “baby blues” they’re not doing it justice.
No one will take your baby away from you for reaching out for help. Speak to your health visitor or Doctor and explain how you’re feeling, it’s always better to be honest and ask for support.
It can be so difficult when you have a partner to share the load with. I can’t imagine how hard being a single mum is. The fact you’re recognising your feelings and seeking help is the first step.
Getting out and about really helps with your mental health so I’d recommend carrying on doing that.

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