i’m struggling to gaf

we were at my man’s parents house today and his kid got told no he couldn’t have candy so proceeded to go around breaking things. broke my kids farm set playhouse, bike, and ripped my daughter’s dress. I told him his ex can pay half of the cost of what he breaks every time he destroys something of my kids. they also blame it on anxiety, which he’s not diagnosed with. my mother in law states that he’s doing this because he’s confused by me and my partners relationship (we’ve been together for several years now and have two children, his kid is turning 9 they separated 8 years ago). these are all speculation none that his therapist say are true. regardless i’m to the point where i’m just over it. he nearly hit my baby with her bike, and i’m over my kid having to see violent meltdowns. she gets scared and tries to hide, i stated that he can’t come by me and my kids if he can’t control these outbursts.

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he needs his ssa whooped!!! too big to be acting like that cuz he can’t have candy wtf 💀

girlllll i was like okay ya anxiety etc. i understand because the therapist said it could impact kids. THEN i saw it was ONLY when he wouldn’t get his way then i was like 🤨🤨🤨🤨 ummmm 🫵🏼youuuuu can get up out my houseeeee and his momma AND daddy feed in to it. I said all i know is if he touch my babies because he gets told no ill dish one out for them.

he broke his grandpa’s outside lights over it

Unfortunately I think a lot of people use the diagnosis ODD to excuse their kids from getting discipline. Not only is he harming others by not getting discipline, but this is such a disservice to him as an adult. I’m not saying that every parent needs to spank their child, that’s up to the parent but it definitely sounds like he needs to be taught anger management even if he has something going on.
But with all that being said you can’t control what that kid’s family does to him, but you can control you and if it were me I’d start setting some clear boundaries and space yourselves for the sake of your daughter but that’s just what I’d do 💔

that’s what i’m going to do.

That honestly sounds like a pretty severe behavioral disorder.. could be related to adhd or autism? I would lean strongly into what the therapist recommends with this behavior and how to best address it. It sounds very difficult, sorry you’re going through this.

the therapist hasn’t given any recommendations how to deal with it is the only thing. they’ve all just come to terms with letting him do whatever but i’m to the point i just can’t deal with it anymore because it’s impacting my kids severely. he’s broken over 1000 worth of stuff and nobody corrects him

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

Sahm .. the dad role .

Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

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Guys I need help! This is going to be my daughter’s nursery and I want to make it cute. Help me find an aesthetic look or a good layout to place some furniture/cribs etc!!

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

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Hi I am running out off ideas on what to make for Lil 14 month old for breakfast lunch and dinner if anyone have any resipes would be great to try my boy with them

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?