Struggling to get out of the house

Does anyone else struggle to get out of the house with their little one? I have an 8 week old and a 2 year old. My partner is on paternity leave, but even with him there, I struggle to make it out of the house cos baby needs feeding or toddler needs nap/food or it’s started to rain etc. My partner ends up taking my 2 year old out and I end up just being sat at home feeding the baby. A part of it is motivation to get out as well as with 2 kids, especially when breastfeeding, going anywhere isn’t a lot of fun for me atm.
Guess I’m just looking to understand if there are others in the same boat atm?

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My LO is nearly 8x weeks old, I can't get the motivation to leave the house unless with my hubby, I'm just happy staying at home with baby the time just disappears and I'm EBF so around feeding him & playtime I'm feeding myself of having to do buts round the house as & when I can as I don't seem to have much time for anything x

I'm sorry you're going through this.
I struggle getting out of the house with my little boy (4 months old) too, I go outside only when my partner has a day off, but he's a chef and he's not around so much. I see a lot of other mamas taking their bubs outside and I would love being able to do the same 😥

It will get better with time! I am just now starting to leave the house more with her at 10 months old !
Be extra mindful when you do get out the house and try to enjoy the moments you choose to stay home and snuggle with a tiny baby cuz it’s not very long! 🫶🏽

I've been going through this too ever since my 10 month old was born, I also have a 2 year old. I can only ever go out when my toddler is in nursery, other than that it's always either my toddler is awake and baby is sleeping or baby is awake and toddler is napping. My toddler is also really difficult outside sometimes and likes to run off and scream if he doesn't get his way. So for now I just let him run wild in our garden. We only ever all go out if my husband is home 🥺

Your 8 week old doesn't really need to go anywhere 😊 it's perfectly fine for hubby to take toddler out and you focus on baby.

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