Baby daddy being lazy?

Is anyone else's partner being lazy when it comes to the baby? My partner works nights but has 3 nights off, which he should be helping me with night feeds or at least getting up with him in the morning and let me have an hour to myself, im starting to have enough and it's really getting to me, I have no time for myself, I always have the baby with me, and alls he says is 'your the one who wanted to have a baby' or 'you get paid maternity to look after him' I've completely had enough. I'm thinking is it best we spilt because I'll get more help off him because he would have to take the baby for 2 nights on his day off. I really don't want to because I love him so much but I don't know how much more I can cope, advice please?

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Have you tried explaining to him that you would like to have few hours to yourself once a week for example? And that you need more help?
We have 2 kids, first one is 28 months and the second one is 12 weeks tomorrow. My partner used to stay up for a dream feed with the baby when he was up to 3 weeks, but we stopped bottlefeeding him so there’s no reason for him to stay up or wake up through the nights, however he’s spending a lot of time with the kids once he’s home, cleans the house if he sees I’m stressed, sends me to take baths and so on. Without me asking

The attitude from what he says does not seem helpful at all, I do not know them so will not comment anymore than that. Despite you mentioning the love, have you considered that there should still be a line as to what is acceptable.

He is in the relationship and consented to the act of procreating, so language like that seems to shirk responsibility. And the attitude toward maternity pay is to be honest shocking, so thank goodness you have that to look after the baby; what happens when your maternity leave finishes then? It seems an honest conversation needs to be had, and may be worth having your thoughts clearly written down, stand your ground.

You really do seem like you're at breaking point by mentioning separation but I'm sure you would not feel this way if your partner was more supportive. He seems to have the complete wrong attitude. It amazes me that some people don't understand that looking after a child is a full time job in itself. Are you saying he is spending no time with the baby what so ever? Does he help around the house with the cooking/cleaning etc and what is he doing on his days off? I think if you haven't already done so, you should sit down and have a serious conversation with him about how his remarks have left u feeling and go from there. My partner has ridiculous hours and sometimes starts work at 4am so I can't expect him to be up too late. He isn't around as much as I'd like him to be but he does help out where he can. Do you have any other means of support i.e friends/family that can come over and watch the baby for a few hours whilst you get a break? If you do have support utilise it and don't be ashamed to do so.

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

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Hi I am running out off ideas on what to make for Lil 14 month old for breakfast lunch and dinner if anyone have any resipes would be great to try my boy with them

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?