I hear my partner watching porn in the shower

I think most people watch porn to masturbate, I wouldn’t worry too much about it but also if it does make you feel like this it might be worth talking to him about it? I’m sure he’ll be able to reassure you. I watch porn but it has absolutely no reflection on my relationship or how I feel about my partner- I never compare the guys on there to him and if I did it would always be him anyway because we have real love. I’m sure your partner feels the same.

You’re not over reacting because it’s a reflection of your feelings. I get that people masturbate but I thinks it’s disrespectful to do it while you’re in the house. Especially if you’re not having sex. I would have an open conversation with him about your sex life and let him know about your insecurities. The chances are, he’s not even thought about it and just wants a wank. Remember, men’s thinking patterns are totally different to womens xx

My husband mastubates before having a shower in the morning sometimes, sometimes with porn sometimes not. Doesnt bother me at all its normal, i used to masturbate after he left to go to work sometimes. I dont really think about it even being about sex but the sense of relief you feel after

If he doesn’t have sex with you as much as you’d like then maybe talk to him? Because why masturbate when you have a beautiful woman next to you. I don’t care if mine watches porn as long as it doesn’t affect us

I feel you, OP. I've had issues since my little one was a newborn. I was recovering, and then we barely did anything, had communication issues, etc It was awful. He said that as long as he got it once a month, he was fine. I was upset about that. Conversations didn't go well. We argued a lot, and he said he'd stop, but I feel he resents me for it. We still barely do anything, and often, he has to be near asleep or asleep to start something. Between that and porn, it makes me feel absolutely awful about myself. You aren't alone, and your feelings are valid and matter.

@Amy yes but they aren’t having sex at all OP said :/ so what you said makes sense however, I need to be giving love and attention to the person that you love as well. She said she’s feeling insecure about all of this, and she has every right to be because of these reasons.

I think if he were to masterbate it still show you intimacy that’s more of a normal scenario. Many people still masterbate. But masterbating whilst your intimacy is going down the drain I would find a bit more hurtful. Maybe talk to him. Tell him it’s upset you and that you’d like to have more intimacy.

Everyone opinion is different but i wouldnt like it if my partner did this. I would feel like im not good enough for him thats he has to go looking elsewhere to have a wank. Its like u goin to play with urself over a different bloke would he like this? I dont no y most men have to do this 🤦‍♀️ , talk to him tell him how u feel if he loved u n respected u he would listen x

I have spoken to him and he's apologised and said he won't watch it anymore.. but like I said it's not the fact he's just jerking off it's upsetting me that he's going to porn rather then me.. we've been together 5 years and he's hidden it from me, just makes me feel awful 😞

This was over text this morning anyway.. guess we'll see when we speak properly tonight.. if he's that horny why not just wake me up or if he needs it that bad like why not say something to me? That's all that's going through my head, I just don't feel good enough

Bless ya i kno how u feel tbh… not nice at all and yes makes u feel like that, yes have a word with him tonight. Can u trust him will he keep to his words or will he still look an go on there? 5 years is along time xx

Exactly if hes feeling horny he should be tryin it on with u not over some slag on a screen with her bits out its not right x

That's what's worrying me.. he's kept it hidden for this long so he can say anything really can't he.. I know I probably sound like a right bitch 🤦🏻‍♀️ It sounds so stupid but I feel like I don't know him anymore

No hun not at all. I would be feelin the exact same way, i dont agree with it!! Keepin this behind there womens back tbh and its not right. my partner is always on his fone i bugger of upstairs an that upsets me as he shows more intrest in his phone then me , im 33 wks pregnant and iv struggled so bad feelin lonely etc sex life isnt great eaither as i jus feel used when he wants it then ages down the line!!! Been with him 19 years 2 kids n 1 on the way!! Message me anytime for a chat xxx

Bless you, I know too well about the phone addiction too 🤦🏻‍♀️ I'll message you now x

Sounds like a porn addiction to me porn or not Normal it is `Normalised ‘ it does awful thing to your brain there are a lot of studies on this , we aren't meant to watch other people being intimate..❤️

I do think it’s normal for him to watch porn but I understand your insecurities. Especially having a baby and our bodies change etc. i guess he might be thinking he’s helping by curbing his desires a bit so it doesn’t put pressure on you? Just chat to him about it x