I hear my partner watching porn in the shower

Am I over reacting about this? So this morning I came down with my 8 month old and my partner was in the shower ready for work.. I heard the moaning 🤦🏻‍♀️ when he got out after about 20 mins I asked him if he was watching porn and he said "I might have been.." I went to give my lg her bottle and he just went to work. My head started spiraling.. I feel it's stupid really, I mean it's only masturbating but it's made me feel so insecure that he barley has sex with me and then goes on to watch porn at like 6.15am in the shower. I stupidly went on his laptop to look at his history and there was porn searches when he would have been working from home.. so me and my baby were in the next room whilst he's meant to be working having a wank? Am I over reacting? I don't care that he's masturbating.. it's the fact he's got to watch porn :/ it's made me feel so insecure.. I'll never live up to looking like the girls on those videos I just ugh 😩

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I think most people watch porn to masturbate, I wouldn’t worry too much about it but also if it does make you feel like this it might be worth talking to him about it? I’m sure he’ll be able to reassure you. I watch porn but it has absolutely no reflection on my relationship or how I feel about my partner- I never compare the guys on there to him and if I did it would always be him anyway because we have real love. I’m sure your partner feels the same.

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You’re not over reacting because it’s a reflection of your feelings.
I get that people masturbate but I thinks it’s disrespectful to do it while you’re in the house. Especially if you’re not having sex.
I would have an open conversation with him about your sex life and let him know about your insecurities. The chances are, he’s not even thought about it and just wants a wank. Remember, men’s thinking patterns are totally different to womens xx

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My husband mastubates before having a shower in the morning sometimes, sometimes with porn sometimes not. Doesnt bother me at all its normal, i used to masturbate after he left to go to work sometimes. I dont really think about it even being about sex but the sense of relief you feel after

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If he doesn’t have sex with you as much as you’d like then maybe talk to him? Because why masturbate when you have a beautiful woman next to you. I don’t care if mine watches porn as long as it doesn’t affect us

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I feel you, OP. I've had issues since my little one was a newborn. I was recovering, and then we barely did anything, had communication issues, etc

It was awful. He said that as long as he got it once a month, he was fine. I was upset about that. Conversations didn't go well.

We argued a lot, and he said he'd stop, but I feel he resents me for it.

We still barely do anything, and often, he has to be near asleep or asleep to start something.

Between that and porn, it makes me feel absolutely awful about myself.

You aren't alone, and your feelings are valid and matter.

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yes but they aren’t having sex at all OP said :/ so what you said makes sense however, I need to be giving love and attention to the person that you love as well. She said she’s feeling insecure about all of this, and she has every right to be because of these reasons.

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I think if he were to masterbate it still show you intimacy that’s more of a normal scenario. Many people still masterbate. But masterbating whilst your intimacy is going down the drain I would find a bit more hurtful. Maybe talk to him. Tell him it’s upset you and that you’d like to have more intimacy.

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I have spoken to him and he's apologised and said he won't watch it anymore.. but like I said it's not the fact he's just jerking off it's upsetting me that he's going to porn rather then me.. we've been together 5 years and he's hidden it from me, just makes me feel awful 😞

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This was over text this morning anyway.. guess we'll see when we speak properly tonight.. if he's that horny why not just wake me up or if he needs it that bad like why not say something to me? That's all that's going through my head, I just don't feel good enough

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That's what's worrying me.. he's kept it hidden for this long so he can say anything really can't he.. I know I probably sound like a right bitch 🤦🏻‍♀️
It sounds so stupid but I feel like I don't know him anymore

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Bless you, I know too well about the phone addiction too 🤦🏻‍♀️ I'll message you now x

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Sounds like a porn addiction to me porn or not Normal it is `Normalised ‘ it does awful thing to your brain there are a lot of studies on this , we aren't meant to watch other people being intimate..❤️

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I do think it’s normal for him to watch porn but I understand your insecurities. Especially having a baby and our bodies change etc. i guess he might be thinking he’s helping by curbing his desires a bit so it doesn’t put pressure on you? Just chat to him about it x

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