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I am getting so stressed out and frustrated. My 3 month old baby just won't ever ever burp. You can hear that gravelly sound like he's got soooo much wind but no matter how much you try to burp him, he just won't burp. And then he'll throw up or do a huge poo. He sometimes burps at other times other than at feeds, but burping him is near impossible.
To make matters even worse, he's not gaining weight properly. He's gained a few ounces in the last month😓 and has dropped a centile line. He was on the 25th before, but is now on the 9th centile and he's just so little, at 5.4kg.
I'm already feeding him 5-6 ounces of breast milk in a bottle every 4 ish hours. The health visitor said I'm not giving him enough, but the GP said that's more than normal... they think it's because he's got reflux and won't burp, so he may not be taking in enough.
But I'm literally just so overwhelmed and I've just fed him and he literally didn't burp once, not even a little one, and I was burping him for at least 5 minutes. I'm beyond stressed out by this and it's really affecting my mental health that I can't work out how to burp him properly and that he's not gaining weight. I'm trying so so hard to feed him but it's just not working properly.
Sorry for how long this is but I just really need some advice or support. I am writing this and baby is sat in his bouncer just with that gravelly sound and I will try and burp him again. But my arms are about to fall off as I have muscle issues and I can't hold him for prolonged periods of time. This is so hard. Anyone else experience anything like this? Thanks xxxx
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Have you tried alternate burping positions? We had trouble with over the shoulder with my son for a while and the lap one worked best- sit him on your leg and bend his torso slightly forward, supporting his chin (not neck) with your hand, and pat his back with the other hand. Some babies just take longer to burp too- there's been times I've had to do it for 15 minutes unfortunately. Also, we started giving our son simethicone gas drops after every feed and they worked wonders. They do not replace burping but it gives a little more peace of mind if you can't get one out every once and a while.
we've literally tried every single position and nothing helps. We've been prescribed gaviscon for reflux and wind which hasn't done anything. Infacol was also prescribed which doesn't work. I physically cannot burp him for more than about 5 mins at a time as I don't have the muscle strength and my hands will start to spasm if I don't stop 😓 feel like I'm running out of options and I just cry all the time

My boy is AWFUL for burping too!! I have to give him to MIL ! Slight pressure on the tummy when over the shoulder does help us. Or letting him lay down for a bit then picking him up and walking round with him over my shoulder having a bounce.
He sometimes won’t burp after a bottle then an hour later having a cuddle they come outta no where!

My LG was the same before I started dairy free. Turns out that she’s got an allergy to milk. She wasn’t gaining weight and even now at 3 months old she’s 4.5kg and just below the 2nd centile. One thing that did work most of the time was sitting her on my lap and patting her stomach in beat to Michael Jackson smooth criminal😂

Try holding baby under the armpits, holding their body, let their legs dangle and swing them gently like a pendulum. Left and right and then back and forth. 5/6 swings in each direction and then sit them up straight.
My boy might take 20 mins to burp, we just kept him sat upright and waited, slightly tilted to his left.
Also, that’s plenty of milk for a breastfed baby. You could try seeing a lactation consultant privately for some help on feeding and burping, they might have a tongue tie which would make them take on excess air.

i tried infacol and it made it worse apparently it’s more acid based so it tends to do that with reflux, i’ve since changed to using dentinox and it has been so much better. i also feed him more little and often and keep him upright or slightly raised if he’s tired for a little while after a feed and i burp him before, during and after a feed and he’s been doing so much better xx

Have you tried lay him on a sofa or bed flat on his front and pat his back? When mine struggles to burp this helps
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