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This is sad and just terrible. Your husband isn’t completing you because he has allowed this awful behavior and his silence is acceptance. You can speak up for you….you are all adults and respect is a two way thing. If you want a happy marriage I would suggest counseling for you both. And for me if you can not respect me then you don’t see the kids (may not be the most popular thought process). It’s just crazy how some families treat people and get joy out of hurting and abusing others.

I wish you luck and I hope you find peace within your situation but remember you have a voice.

You need to lay down the law… I hate to say it but it’s either you or them… you are his family now so you and your son should be top priority… not wanting to upset his parents is BS excuse.

You need to tell him he either stands up for you from here on out or you are done.. this is horrible and you are right you don’t need to deal with his parents nonsense. Do they go to friends houses or strangers houses and tell them how do decorate their house? Probably not and it’s the same at your house whether you are family or not.. I also agree that you may need to limit seeing them or having them over. They should not be disrespecting you in your safe space and they need to know that!

Sooner or later you'll resent your husband over this. They won't change and unless your husband sticks up for you soon, it'll end up too late.
Have you told him you're thinking of leaving? If he'd rather let that happen than stick up for you then you'll always have major family issues.

They are nasty people I would ignore them and in my head tell them to F off with a smile on my face. Your husband does need to tell them to keep their comments to themselves because neither one of you care for their opinion. I would find someone else to watch your child for the one day a week and limit any contact with them.

I’d be telling them all to get in the bin at this point…your husband included.

Why doesn’t he have your back?! That’s not a solidified team.

If he can’t stick up for you and you don’t feel you want to end your marriage then I would cut ties with the family completely and tell your husband that you’re prioritising yourself. He can do as he wishes in terms of seeing them but you’ll have no part of it

Thanks for your replies girls. You have all confirmed my thoughts, I guess I needed to hear it from others because I was worried I was over reacting 🫣 it’s hard when you are constantly second guessing yourself xx

This is terrible. I would have a really serious talk with your husband or even counseling. And definitely distance myself from them. Is there any other option to replace them once a week ? The point is that they really think they have a say in your life because your husband allowed it. If he can't stick and protect you from them, then I would not share anything about your home/your kid/ your life. If they don't know, they can't comment or criticize.
If your husband is not happy about it, you can remind him he didn't do anything to help and you had to stick up for yourself as he was enable to protect you.
Happy couple are those who make healthy boundaries with their families.

So be to clear, I didn’t put everything in the original post as it would be far too long, but there have been occasions where I have stuck up for myself, and I have said things, especially when it has been about my parenting or when I have requested they do something such as communicate with me what my little boy has eaten, how long his nap is etc. they would take him out (and still do!) and I have no idea where they are taking him, what he’s had for his lunch etc. I have asked and asked and get nothing. They tell me I don’t trust them when I ask for information or his mum will become ‘offended’ saying I think she was a bad mum to her boys! Anyway, this all blew up last October and my husband sent some messages explaining how I felt, and her response was that I was too anxious. That’s when they turned up with their printed sheets and spent an hour telling me how I should have done things differently and included them more in his life (the same people who were always busy when I

Messaged them). Anyway my husband sat there like a stuffed dummy, never defended me or my choices once. After they left, I literally poured my plate of food over his head and threw my glass of water over him and told him that’s what happens when he sits and let’s his parents speak to me like that. It was my fault that his family hadn’t seen my little boy enough despite us asking them frequently, it was my fault that I had uploaded their photos of their family on social media, it was my fault that I had followed guidance on passing baby round, car seats etc. I have never felt so hurt by something. Anyway, I don’t make a habit of throwing food over my husband, but in that occasion I lost my temper and that was it. My little boy is on a waiting list for nursery but hoping there to be a place for him ASAP.

He should be supporting you but I also understand not wanting conflict. I know I’m in a similar, slightly toned down situation and my husband doesn’t defend me much either but I also know how these people are and if he were to get too involved they would just make further comments so sometimes maybe it’s best to just try to ignore, trust me I know how hard that can be but maybe they will stop provoking if they receive no reaction from either of you? Good luck anyways ❤️