How to find time for myself

I am 20 with a 4mo and I have no time to myself all I do all day everyday is lay in bed and take care of my son. I sometimes get time to myself with my mil (who we live with) takes him for maybe an hour and I use that time to either clean myself clean bottles clean my room or clean dishes. When I put him down for a nap if he’s not right next to me he doesn’t sleep for long 30-40 minutes max. My bd works 6 days a week 8-4 and then goes to school Monday-Thursday 6-10 so Sunday is his only day off and wants to relax himself. I miss making myself feel pretty by doing my make up and hair I miss playing games with my boyfriend I miss being able to draw or bake I have had multiple break downs about this and I don’t know what to do

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Don’t feel bad it happens to all of us . Ur baby is so little just focus on u and the baby for the first year nothing else . It gets easier around 8 months ur almost there. This is normal . Don’t worry so much about cook or clean if u physically cant at least for the first year . I suggest getting out of ur pjs and doing self care w.e that is for u (make up etc) at least twice a week. Watch how that brings u so much energy more than coffee. And from there u go

It feels never ending at the moment but it does get better! Once your little one sleeps through the night and has a set routine for example 7pm-7am (every baby is different but just for example) then you’ll get some of your evening back and can take some time out for yourself, it’s not too far away it does get better just hang in there! X

It will get better as the baby gets older don’t worry!

It will get better I am the same way taking care of my 3 kids and my husband who is disabled all day everyday no time to myself

My LO is 5 months and I bring the bouncy chair to the bathroom to get ready, bring it to the kitchen and let her watch me bake. It's an adjustments and definitely hard at times, things take a bit longer to do but it's important to do the stuff that makes you happy! You got this momma. 💜

Girl I am in the EXACT same situation. I’ve honestly just come to terms with the fact that I won’t have time for myself right now but it will get better

What helped me when my baby was in the smaller months was “schedule the baby around you, don’t schedule yourself around the baby” and as crazy as this sounds, it actually works when their still small. If you want to draw, put your baby down for tummy time/crawling time and draw. If you’re starting to feel down and want to do something, put baby in the stroller and go outside for a hot mom walk. It’s easier said than done I know. But when the deep thoughts start getting to you, it’s easy to feel depressed. Get fresh air. Do what you love, just find a balance and remember to be practical. Life gets easier when baby boy is older. For now, enjoy him, take so many pictures of him, and yourself, because 5 months from now you’ll see you both and remember exactly what you were feeling in “that” moment 🩷 be kind to yourself doll ✨

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