Feeling resentment towards husband/partner?

Hi all! Over 32 weeks now and noticing myself feels this underlying anger and jealously towards my husband who's life seems so unaffected and impacted. He has energy to carry on with his running, socials, sleeps so soundly. While I've been really struggling with nausea, pain, insomnia, low energy. And the anticipation of going through painful birth, then sleepless breastfeeding. Kinda makes me feel mad when he says we're in this together/ a team because I do feel like a big weight of having a baby impacts me in a big way that he doesn't share. Feel awful for feeling these emotions at the same time because he is a good man. But I needed to vent and was wondering if anyone out there feels this too?

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I understand those feelings… I’ve found it helpful to look at it as an honor/privilege. Something that is very difficult/demanding, yes… but a responsibility that I have been entrusted with. Nothing meaningful has ever come without difficulty. That helps me to accept the necessary sacrifices we must make.

And that being said, my husband and I have already agreed to sleep in shifts so that we both can get at least 4 hours a night. I’ll be pumping in addition to breastfeeding (hopefully!) so we can start this after I store some up

This. Maybe it’s just today? But I’ve about lost it and less of him not being physically effected but more of he doesn’t seem to be preparing for the maternity leave and financially saving for the just in case scenarios. It feels like that’s all my burden to bare along with the stress of those possible outcomes. And now ive made myself sick with worry and stressed him out but i can’t help it. Reading that at least he said we are in this together/ a team made me breakdown even more because tonight I didn’t get told that… just that I’m stressing him out. So maybe allow yourself to feel good that he at least has a helpful perspective? Maybe be more vocal about the things you are struggling with? I know I tend to hide my discomfort and my stressors, sometimes we forget they aren’t mind readers. And if your man is a good guy he will at least try to make you feel better or help. But I feel you. And maybe it’s just this day that sucks. Tomorrow will be better.

I understand I'm up all night. Feeling large and tired 32 weeks

Absolutely understand, because it’s all true. Hopefully when the baby comes he will do what he can to ease the burden.

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I know this horrible and I feel like the worst person. I know I’m going to wake up tomorrow with the worst feelings and guilt, but right now, I’m so fucking fed up of this life. Everything is a battle, there is never a time we can just do the thing and today it peaked for me.

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Am I in the wrong or my husband?

I want to start by saying that last year my baby was only about 4 months old, and we didn’t even go to my parents’ house for Easter. We went to his family’s celebration and then went straight home.

This year, it’s turned into a big argument. He wants to go to his family’s church—which I’ve never been to, and he hasn’t even gone to in the four years we’ve been together. I want to go to church with my sister and her husband, grab lunch with them afterward, go home so our toddler can take her nap, and then go to his family’s Easter, followed by my family’s.

He’s completely against that plan. He wants to either skip our toddler’s nap so we can be “on time” for his family’s Easter, or make me choose between going to church with my sister or going out to eat after—I can’t do both.

His family’s Easter is from 11–1, which is exactly during our toddler’s nap time. They’ve even been understanding and offered to do another egg hunt after her nap or whenever we arrive. But he’s still not willing to compromise.

Instead, he wants to go to his family’s church, skip going out to eat, put our toddler down an hour later than usual—or skip her nap entirely—and then go to his family’s Easter.

I feel like I’m the one trying to compromise so we can spend time with both sides of the family this year, especially mine.

Am I wrong here, or is he being unreasonable?