Neglect or not?

I’m impressed you can sleep with a wild one running around 😂 I mean if you’re 100% sure it’s completely baby proof and things are anchored to the wall and no little bits of the floor to try and eat I guess you do what you gotta do!! I would say it’s not fair for hours but maybe 10-15 min kip isn’t terrible. Personally I couldn’t, mainly cos baby wouldn’t let me 😂 and I don’t think my anxiety would either tbf. I wouldn’t call it neglect but I wouldn’t consider it good either

Why don’t you swap it around, sleep when she sleeps and clean when she’s awake. It’s definitely possible to get little bits done while they’re awake cos they’ll enjoy being involved.

Neglect

Yes, please don't leave your child unattended. I get you are tired, we all are. Sleep when baby is asleep if you need sleep, and do what you can while they are awake.

Yes this is neglectful, being a working mum myself I realise how tiring and exhausting it is, but you have to power through.
Get your 1 year old some toys and put them in the room you're cleaning in with your child, then move them round the house as you go. Don't leave baby to their own devices while you have a nap, it's dangerous and really unfair to your baby.

Power through, you can do this!

I feel before people start stating ‘neglect’ that a little more context is given. What is your LO doing while the BD is minding them? Why is she awake so often when you’re minding her? Why is there so much cleaning to do when you come home from work? I don’t understand why more people aren’t asking this question? If both parents are working why is it all on the mum to sort everything out while also trying to rest after working?

that wasn’t the question though? The question was ‘is it neglectful to go to sleep and lock my child in the room with me whilst I’m asleep’ so people are giving their opinion and answer to that question.. and OP used the term neglect herself, it’s not a word other commenters have started randomly throwing around.

I understand that completely. It’s not ideal. But I as Mum’s shouldn’t we be asking for more details? The fact that the Mum is even posting this shows it’s caused concern for her. How many other things are possibly weighing in her to feel the need to express this? What’s the BD doing the whole time he minds the child? Does he also sleep? Like there’s so much more to it other than the exact question

We all do what we need to do is sure there is times that almost every one has accidently fallen asleep around a baby but I try not to just wouldn't do it very often

What I don't understand is the theme I see of men "not doing enough" or "women doing it all". It's like this immediate assumption that someone is to blame.

We both work full time too. None of us takes naps while the toddler is awake. The house is a tip most days despite the fact that we both pull our weight in and look after it. Unless we hire a cleaner, this will be the case for some time.

Let's not overthink this. House is messy, we do what we can and damn it, we don't sleep while babies are roaming around because it's dangerous. The biggest takeout of this post for me is the fact that someone is so freaking exhausted, and so concerned with the state of their house, that they think they can sleep while their baby is playing. I am glad she at least asked and hope she follows the advice.

I know so many kids who got hurt because their parents took their eyes off them for a split second. One minute they are safe and next they develop their new skill to climb or decide to play with the electric socket.

I'd say yes it's wrong, anything can happen even if you think everything is safe. I just feel it's too risky.

You sound exhausted, so we don't need to call names. I know you're doing your best. But I also think you know you need a better long-term plan. It's time to think about what changes you can reasonably make to your home and routines that will get you more rest and more help. Do it today. If something did happen (remember, babies find ways to surprise us all the time!) you'd never forgive yourself. 💔😢

where is the name calling?

Thank you for seeing another side of this. I feel the same. No one is saying it’s ok to sleep while the baby plays or has free rein over the room. However, in saying that, how many Mum’s actually sleep if they think their child is getting up to mischief lol. I feel this Mother needs our support instead of full blame/judgement x

@N (I can’t find your name to reply) Why do you seem so intent on calling out this poor, exhausted mother. I understand it’s not ok to sleep while minding your child, but to feel so insistent to cause blame is a little odd to me

It’s definitely unsafe. Depending on the task you could use a baby carrier to strap her to your front or back to get things done with your LO. If there are some tasks that need to be done urgently and don’t take a ton of time you could also put on a program like cocomelon depending on how you feel about screens. Also it’s totally ok to just not be able to get everything done! There were times, especially when my girl was younger that I just didn’t get to wash the dishes some nights or ordered food when I had planned to cook. The most important thing is to look after both your baby and yourself

Also a playpen might be a good way to keep your kid confined and occupied while you get a few tasks doing

sorry?
Where have I laid blame? Or said anything negative to/about OP?
My comment was actually offering a solution of switching the way round she does it.
And yes I’ve replied to some other comments but again, never anything negative.

My anxiety could never let me sleep whilst my baby is awake 💀