How would you handle this.. husband getting on my nerves?

Well, you are his family too...so you could just as easily flip it and tell him he's a shit person for not spending time with his wife and child...who are also his family. Using the fact that he works and therefore not expecting help as a result is bullshit! I'm quite sure he had no problems making the baby! You went through pregnancy, delivery, and recovery. You also cook, clean, and take care of babe all day so the least he can do is spend time with the family he helped create. I would suggest marital counseling to work through your issues. I hope it works out hun

He is missing his son growing up, and that is his family and future heir! Is his mom sick, or is he just saying he is there and hanging with friends instead? Sometimes, men are just selfish. When do you get a break for your health? Do you have family or friends close by to help you?

Do the same to him. Get up in the morning, shower, hand him the baby and leave. Go to the gym, out to the lunch, whatever you want. If he can, you can

I know you’re frustrated but don’t lead with anger. Try to understand how he feels & ask for some time off for yourself too, you need it! You SHOULD go to gym, etc, have your own life outside of being momma 🙏

As far as the impatient with the baby, you may want to try leading by example. If he sees you can do it, maybe he will get the hint

I'm not taking his side. Having a baby is a huge change. The most wonderful change. But sometimes people find it difficult. Men struggle too. Men can also suffer from ppd although can be rare. You need to sit down with him, not with anger and discuss his feelings. He might not be intending to be an awful husband and Dad. Especially when he hasn't shown signs like this towards you in the past.
He also needs to understand how you're feeling too, and that you need time to yourself too. My son is 3 and I was feeling so tired today and run down. so I said to husband, I need time to myself and took myself off for a nap. Xx

My man works insane odd hours days and nights ranging from 8 to 16 hour days 5 to 6 days a week for his job and still comes home to help with our 8 week old daughter.. actions speak louder than words if you communicate and he refuses to listen then it may be time to make a change for your and baby sake.

I am going through something very similar with my husband, except he works from home so he is always here but always"working" or its his relaxing time, where he just stares into his phone. he can't handle our son for more than 5 mins and only interacts with him when he is in a good mood and that's mostly just talking to him from a distance, it's really disappointing bc I really thought he would be a better father also. So no advice but I feel what your going through and I know how much it hurts your heart for you but especially for your son. You will never get this special time again and it's a time to be cherished. His favorite thing to say to me is "I can't help it I'm not the one with the tits!" Like seriously?! It pisses me off to no end! I'm honestly thinking very seriously of divorce, I will try everything I can before that but I never thought that would even be a thought in my mind. It hurts so much bc we are still adjusting and healing from childbirth and they are so damn selfish.

First, so sorry you are dealing with this behavior. Sounds like he is overwhelmed with parenting and decided to bail out, which as the secondary parent he can easily do.

The going to his mother’s house instead of home rubs me the wrong way because it feels like he is trying to stay the kid instead of learning to parent.

If he was your best friend until recently try talking to him about it? Give examples of what you’d like him to do or help with and make it clear it’s a fraction of what you do and he needs to help. He may not realize his regular and extended “me time” is weighing on you so much.

My husband is a bit more helpful and still doesn’t get it sometimes 🫠

Good luck!

same!!! The other day after only holding our LO for 5-10min he hands her back and I’m like you can do whatever it is AND hold her like I do 🙄 and he goes “I can’t, I have to make tea” I just burst out laughing because it was such a ridiculous excuse. Normally I get upset and call BS but it was just too absurd and I needed the laugh.

for real!! 🤣 Like why do we have to be the one to hold the baby and just figure it out, this may be TMI but I've had to use the bathroom with him strapped to me and you can't hold him and do anything?! You just figure it out just like we mamas do. I guess if we never make them then they never have to. Honestly I don't trust him enough to leave LO with him though which is just sad... a couple weeks ago I was outside for a much needed break and he screamed at him to shut up! It just made it worse and our baby started screaming his head off. I was like did you really just scream at a 4 month old?! Like grow up dude that's not gonna help a thing and just gonna piss everyone off. Go scream into a pillow or something. Is your guy also jealous of your baby like mine is?

mines the exact same.. tells him to shut up. What’s wrong with these idiot men

Guys can also get postnatal depression, it’s more like separation, he might need to see a counselor

@Jeni finally somebody not attacking the men. As frustrating as it is, they can struggle too. X

we attack the men because so often when the men struggle they check out. Women struggle too but we do what we need to do

@Heather yep true that they can check out. Because they find it harder to talk about it. They are mostly embarrassed and feel they have to man up. Which in turn we automatically just think arsehole. Now by all means I'm not sticking up for this ladies husband, but if he has changed since having baby , out of character for him , acting like an "arsehole" snapping. There could be some hidden issues xx

Yeap I’ve fed her while in the loo 🫣 perfecting the 1 arm hold. I think I have serious biceps now lol

Luckily he hasn’t had outbursts at the baby, he is more patient with her than me ( and same vice versa because we know she can’t help it).

I think we both miss each others attention so for every kiss we give the baby we try to include the other. But it’s hard and tiffs happen🫠

I’m so sorry :( this really sucks.
Have a good chat with him. Get someone to mind the baby, and have a nice dinner just you & him. See if he will open up.
He’s probably struggling with losing all his freedom etc. young babies need their mums more so he might feel left out.
You deserve a present partner and your child deserves a present father. But communication is key. If he can open up and explain why he’s behaving like this, and he can feel supported by you, it will improve