Would you be mad?

So these last few days have been rough between me and my boyfriend. He went through a rough patch that left him like a different person. He was struggling at work which made him constantly depressed, angry, and distant. We've been intimate twice in over a month and even then it felt like he was forcing him self to enjoy it. I've done everything to cheer him up, support him, and show him nothing but love. He ended up quiting and has been off work for 2 weeks now. He doesn't help around the house and just wants to play video games. A couple of days I made his favorite meal (bacon chicken Alfredo) I changed the recipe a little to test and he did nothing but complain about it. Then while I was busy with our 4 year old ate 2 more bowls full (one of which was my supper) yesterday I was super stressed and on the verge of tears I was so frustrated. He didn't ask if I was okay, instead he kept sending our 4 year old to ask me what was for supper. Then when I started to have a full blown break down he grabbed his keys said he was going for a drive and disappeared for 2 hours! When I said it was suspicious he freaked out that I was "accusing him of cheating" bit I never said that. Last night before bed I tried to explain what I was feeling he left to go hang out with his friend and was gone for a few hours. I ended up sleeping on the couch last night and when he came home he woke me up and asked me to come to bed. When I said no he mumbled "fucking fine. Whatever" then went to bed. He hasn't spoken to me today. Am I wrong for being mad?

He's NEVER been like this. He's normally the most kind, caring, and funny person ever.

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No I’d be really mad too. All of that is not okay.

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I’d be mad too. Sometimes when things are really tough this same dynamic happens with my husband so I’m all ears if anyone has solutions.

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It's upsetting and frustrating because he's not even trying and all you are doing is trying. He doesn't get to act this way and expect you to be fine. Whatever he's going through, he needs to address. It's not going to improve with avoidance. Relationships take work and it can't be one sided. Sit down, hold hands and look him in the eye. Tell him you're concerned that all these changes are interfering with your relationship. You want him to be okay, so that you can be partners and co-parent your baby together ❤️ If he doesn't want and refuses to help himself, there's really nothing you can say or do because it's up to him to solve this problem. He won't have any healthy relationships at this rate. All you can do is try to motivate and support him to deal with his mental health. Good luck!

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Sit him down and both have a conversation about you like about each other and things you don't. Try understand each others views points. If he doesn't agree to do this, show him the front door and tell him not to come back until he starts acting like man that starts providing for his family.

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I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

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So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.


Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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