How does it happen

13 years me and my partner have been together we have the most amazing relationship it really is we don’t have any trust issues of dramas nothing like that we have always bickered like mad but nothing to mad
But the past year I would say 6 months especially has been the hardest and most horrible our relationship has ever been we can’t get on for longer then a few days there’s always something we are arguing about
My partner has had really bad anxiety and was put on meds 2 years ago nearly and it’s been amazing for him but it’s like we constantly are battling I can’t see his side he can’t see mine her gets nasty in arguments and can say really horrible things then when I cry his like oh here we go play the victim like you always do telling me how I never see how I make him feel
For example tonight he texts me in his way home what times dinner I text him 4 minutes later that I was doing it early anyway comes in happy we all sit at the dinner table he then eats 2 mouthfuls doesn’t eat anymore
I then later in the evening say did you eat ? He was like yeah I went into McDonalds I was starving I said why would you do that when I text you saying what time dinner was he then said I took to long to reply and he just got food
I then said why did you when you got in not say no don’t do me dinner I’m not hungry
And he just kicks off saying I didn’t get back to him quick enough why does it matter blah blah blah
And it’s little things like this that’s petty that’s causing so much arguments we are so distant from each other it’s crazy we have a day or 2 days being us then the rest back to the arguments it breaks my heart because we actually both really love one another but this is so not us and I don’t want my daughter brought up in an unhappy relationship ( we never have been till recently)
Sometimes I wonder if it’s like a childhood trauma coming out his actually had therapy for his anxiety and I know they touched on his childhood but he never said much his absolutely obsessed with him mum the women can do no wrong in his eyes but all she did was put on him from a really small child even up till now I sometimes wonder if some things are his own insecurity’s that his just not dealt with
I’m not one for couples therapy I can’t lie I know it works for so many that’s not the root I want to go down I just need to figure a way to solve this and get us back it makes me so sad

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All I can say is there are a lot of parallels to my relationship and yours. Mamas boy, 13 years, constant bickering and arguing, can’t agree on anything anymore. What the heck is going on?!!

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

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Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

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Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

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What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.


Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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Especially bedroom considering dirty laundry lives in there too. I do laundry once a week because I don’t use enough to do more frequent.
But I just want my room smelling nice and cosy.

The more natural the method the better ladies 😣
I open windows everyday. I don’t get enough sunlight for plants 😭

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