MiL gone crazy since I was pregnant

Of 5 out of 6 years my MiL was the best MiL you could wish for! She was supportive, understanding, we spoke almost daily and she always stood up for me if my husband was being a pain. Then I got pregnant….it is like she is a different person.

She would say some crazy things to me like pointing to my bump and telling me that my baby is her baby… when baby came she began overstepping boundaries like kissing our preemie when we clearly explained that it was a boundary and then being argumentative when I asked her not to kiss him. One time she stayed with us to help and all she did was try and kiss the baby and ultimately she did absolutely nothing to help us and expected me to do everything whilst she cuddles my newborn all day.

Now…(my baby is now 4 months) I never hear from her and she doesn’t even ask about her grandson. We have been having a very difficult time with my baby feeding and my partner being unwell, and it is like she couldn’t care less. She’s given me zero support, and doesn’t even check in with me.

I miss our relationship…

Anyone else’s relationship get worse when they have a baby?

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Is she going through menopause. Depression other things in life?

Maybe you should sit down and have a talk with her , ask her what’s going on , and tell her you miss the good relationship you had with her . Try get her to open up so it can be sorted . You’re not being unreasonable at all feeling sad or irritated by her behaviour, it is odd that it would change so fast … but there has to be a reason , even if its that she’s just a little jealous and feeling pushed out x

Is exactly the same as me and my MIL.

She was also super nice and there for me before pregnancy. As soon as we told her, she thought she was the best out of all of the grandparents. She was there at the birth (I know, also premature at 28 weeks).
Got depressed while he was in hospital. Kissed him when he came home and looked at me with disgust when I told her no. I still don't allow her to kiss him.
She was obsessed when he was in hospital and when he first came home. Then is didn't see him for months then only came when it suited her (think she was pissed that I kept telling her off). She then thought when she partially retired she'd look after him once a week 🤣
I told my husband I didn't trust her around LO so it's not happening.

It's still rocky at 22 months because she makes zero effort and tries to have her own way when she does come round. I don't trust her around my child at all. I don't contact her at all and that's made me a lot happier

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