He said that porn is more fun than me…

Ask him if being single and only seeing his kids on weekends is fun? Men lash out for pride and ego, my ex said he'd taken a viagra because it was the only way he could enjoy sex with me! Not the fact that he smokes weed and drinks to the point he passed out and pissed himself but yeah it was my fault 🙄 it takes 2 to make a baby and it takes 2 to care for them. Does he not realise you're so exhausted sex is the last thing on your mind

I'd ask him how he'd feel if his sister/mom/daughter came home and said their partner said that.

I would also ask him why he felt the need to want to hurt your feelings about something like that? That’s a terrible thing to do and he would be considered a jerk

Relationships are hard and both sides can say something out of anger just to hurt the other person if they’re in a mood. We’ve all done it- not making excuses but if you love him and actually want to get past it you gotta start there. After I had my daughter and wasn’t ready for sex a lot my fiance kicked up the porn a bit and when I asked him about it bc I felt bad he said he knew I wasn’t there yet and didn’t want to stress me out but he still needed to get off. I’m not a fan of porn but I understood where he came from. Just talk it out with him. Men don’t do well with accusations. So if you actually want a conversation you have to lean into understanding where he’s coming from first. Then back in how you feel.

Porn is a drug - it rewires the brain. It is an addiction that some men have. I would suggest you have him get treatment for this addiction. If he cares about his wife and family he’ll want to get help.

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