Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

I don't know anymore.

I constantly feel like I'm trying to find different ways to make myself mad at my man... I love him soo much I waited years to find him and him being the person who changed my world and the person I knew I wanted babies with. After having my first son/ baby with him he's amazing he took great care of me and helped as much as he could he had some things to learn but I taught him what I could about being a dad. But now it just seems like issue after issue and idk if it's just me and my head playing games with me but idk why I feel like it's all going to come to a crashing and painful end. He says he's never leaving me says I'm stuck with him says he wouldn't of had a baby with me if he didn't plan on staying. This man does go above and beyond but it seems to come in waves. Like he quit smoking cigarettes for me and baby, he does the dishes most the time. And washes bubbys and babies dishes every night, he takes care of the dogs, so on and on but no matter what it feels like I'm not getting the attention or respect I deserve. Other girls men bring home flowers or there favorite meals.. mine brings himself home food and not me unless I ask, he comes home with a whole box of his favorite treats and might give me one as I like them to. I'm so tired of asking him to treat me how I want... for him to do it for a week then stop... my sex drive is pretty much gone I crave attention from others (I don't seek) but I miss having people to talk to I miss having attention instead of him always looking at his phone

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In a similar situation and feels like the child is the only thing were doing it for.

Me2! I don't know anymore myself 7 weeks pp here and fed up with the relationship I hate that I feel like this ...everything that u said only he doesn't do dishes lol and I'm the one craving intimacy from 2nd trimester he's had no interest

I felt exactly the same? Before it was just me and my hubby so he had the time to be more romantic, but now we are both exhausted so we prioritised being parents before being a couple which caused a lot of arguements, I think you guys need to go back to the basics and do regular date nights, surprise each other with gifts, be more romantic etc. Hope this helps x

Yess we did recently do a date night even as a family it was so sweet and it did make things better then I think my hormones plus getting my period got the better of me. I'm reaching out to a program today to hopefully help me with alot of these feelings!

Have you heard of pmdd? I get mad at me man for no reasons on specific days of the month. Way bfore my period comes.

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..